What kind of feelings does this evoke? Does it make him want to pursue her MORE or LESS? For example, there is someone that is very attracted to me as I am to him. But we work together so can't really do anything about it. From time to time he asks me if I am seeing anyone and the answer has always been no- UNTIL yesterday when I went on a date to a football game. He happens to be there, sees us and immediately positions himself so he can see us. I notice him walking back and forth and looking up at us from across the field. When my date went to get me a drink, I noticed him looking that way, I guess, to see who I was with. Anyway, I'd like to understand men and how they think when they actually see someone they are attracted to with another man even if they are just hanging out. When I saw him today at work, he seemed to show up everywhere I was and was extra nice to me. Coincidence? He never mentioned seeing me at the game yesterday.
2007-10-18 15:54:24 · 24 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to rent the movie "Kinsey". "Kinsey" is a movie about a entomologist at the University of Kentucky who gained national and international reknown as the "Sex Doctor" in the 1950's, who found that when it comes to sex and relationships, there are no absolutes.
Indeed, as with all primal responses, men react to jealousy with a milder fight or flight response.
You see, therein lies the rub. It's a fight OR flight response.
Some guys, pursue the girl to an even more relentless extent whereas others choose the way of the seemingly pragmatic and just go for the "other fishes in the sea". It all depends on the guy.
2007-10-18 16:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by raffy_09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he pursues you more, or gives up entirely, depends on the man. Some guys will see you with another man and decide to pull out all the stops to win your affection. However, someone less confident, or someone that isn't willing to mess with an existing relationship will simply figure "oh well, missed that one" and move on.
Since this guy has been asking if you're seeing someone, and is now quite attentive I'm guessing he's still interested in you. But since you've always said no, but he saw you with someone else, he's probably unsure of where he stands. So now's the time to make your move. Ask him out. Or at the very least give him a clear sign that you're available and are looking for a date. Now is not the time to play games, he'll just assume you're taken.
Good luck.
2007-10-21 07:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have egos which prevent them from admitting that they are jealous , to anyone except themselves . To do so would show vulnerability and lack of confidence . A woman may not see how this could be true , but that is simply the nature of the beast . He was interested in who you were with and I would think wanted it to be him . Don't take the chance of letting this go any further if you like him too. Find a way to tell him that you would have rather been with him at the game . Even if you have to say something like you are not at ease with most men , but you have always considered him a good friend and would like to see how a date went . Tell him it would be great to go on a date with someone you feel so comfortable with and see where it goes . If it doesn't happen you at least tried ,and maybe found the love of your life if it does happen .
2007-10-18 16:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im no longer definite if you are in need of guys to reply this question or any person...however i see from the solutions to this point no longer many rather have an understanding of what you imply. I feel that ladies are mostly extra empathetic and expertise of the struggles guys suffer. The situation is that guys are inately guarded and feature a difficult time speakme approximately their issues. The girl is aware of there is a trouble simply by watching into his eyes, however he attempts to cover it with a grin...until he isnt the style of guy you describe, then he's much more likely to be indignant and grouchy and take his frustrations out at the persons round him. I desire there have been extra guys on this planet who're like those you describe within the first side of your query.
2016-09-05 14:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell you. Even not all man have a same thought. It depends on his characteristics, whether he is optimistic or pessimistic. You won't know his thought, whether he thinks "let her be happy with him" or "he's not her boyfriend, I still have a chance". You see, it also depends on how he know your date and your relationship with him. Mostly men will never give up as long as his desire has yet belong to another guy. If he know / thought you have a new boyfriend, we also won't know whether he say "just let her go", or "I love her, I'll get her no matter what it takes. I'll never let her belong to someone else."
Since you're attracted to him, you must know his characteristics. You know which characteristic above, closer to him. Here's my hint : Tell him who your date are, or maybe say that your date was nobody for you (if you're really attracted with him). And why don't you give him some "signals" ?
2007-10-18 16:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no one answer. It depends on the man. Some men will go wild with competition to get the girl. Others will feel depressed and unworthy and give up. Yet others will kinda say to themselves that they don't want hand me downs and decide she isn't so hot after all. There are some guys that wouldn't even really notice the other guy because they are focused on what they want. So there is no one answer that fits everybody.
2007-10-18 15:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by CB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's stopping the relationship between you 2 any way. So what if you work together you can still date.
You will never figure out men as we will never figure you woman out. That's just they way it is.
Best part about your story is he didn't treat you bad , so his jealousy must not be that bad or he is a very mature individual. Seems you were paying attention too him more than your date that night . Stop playing game and hook up already.
2007-10-18 16:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by thebaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men like the competition and see it as a challenge.
Others might think it as a threat and become hostile towards the other guy. Some with low-self confidence might give up.
I would see it and think "if I don't act to get this girl now, she'll probably go with this other guy" and then I'd go make my move.
2007-10-18 15:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probally was jelous and checking out his competion his behavior tells me he may be a good man if he has backed off becauseyou asked it shows respect,you can date a fellow employee as long as you have ground rules and seperate you life from work and be discrete but if there is a fall out be prepared it can cause issues at work if both dont act responsible,dont date you boss or someone you supervise ever ive been there take my word that its bad,he probally wants to go out but out of respect has not pursued the issue
2007-10-18 16:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me if i saw my girl cheating on me i will break it off right there
i wouldnt be a jerk but i will just tell her
because theres a 82% percent chance she will lie to you again
and you know what do i really want to be in a relationship that involves my girl lying to me?
its to much grief and you never stop thinking about it
well thts my opinion
2007-10-18 15:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Funky_Fresh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋