A verbal bully in class?

Question

Ok I'm a freshman at college and I thought most people would have matured but I guess not. Theres this guy who sits close to me and these people I talk to. He is always making negative jokes about every little thing. He keeps thinking that hes funny and cool when hes the only one whose laughing at his own negative jokes.

Ok I use to humor them but now I'm annoyed. I try to start a friendly conversation and he starts to make negative jokes about it to make me look stupid. I then give him a come back saying how it was unnecessary and a few peeps agreed with me. I sometimes totally ignore him when he tries to make me look like crap.

How should I really deal with him? He thinks I'm his friend. Also would girls choose him over me? Will girls think I'm weak for ignoring his foolishness? I heard girls like mean guys who pick on others because they feel secure with those guys. Thanks for reading.

Answer 1

It's obvious he's the type to put others down in an effort to feel better about himself. I would not ignore him nor would I engage inconversation with this guy. If he asks a question, answer with a short reply. If he jokes or talks in general, don't acknowledge him. In other words, be cordial, not too friendly and not rude. You will not look weak, just be yourself and if he gets too annoying, sit somewhere else. You can't concentrate on your studies if you're being bothered by some immature idiot! Moving could only help your ordeal!

Answer 2

Some people are just plain ignorant to their own behavior. Then again, it may just be his personality and that's how he is.

Ignoring him is a good tactic, however it's probably better to not talk to him too much. For example, only talk to him in, "hey", "yes", or "no" whenever he's approaching you to chat. Deal with it for a while and he'll eventually disappear from your college years when it's time to choose classes again.

Subconsciously, girls may like the "alpha" male-type guy. However, I don't think he's really doing that. It's more like he's being annoying and I'm sure most people around you agree. Including girls.

Answer 3

I think you should tell him that he is annoying you. See what his reaction is. It may be that he is the type that likes the caustic type humour, and thinks he is funny. I have a friend, semi friend anyway, that is like that. As long as I stay ahead of him, and cut him down more than he cuts me, he is laughing and all is good. Weird guy. In your case, turning the other cheek won't help. That is a sign of weakness. Take him to a local watering hole, get him a few drinks, and have it out. Verbally. Beat him at his own game, then tell him to back off, so you can still be friends. Tell him any time he wants to match verbal spars, you are game, but only at the time and place. If all else fails, beat the crap out of him, but only as a last resort!

Answer 4

For starters....girls don't like mean guys...at least I don't...and I'm pretty sure no one else would! It's way sweeter for a guy to act mature rather than stoop to a bully's level. Girls don't find people like that attractive, cause we know he'd probably make fun of us too!

Anyways, ignore him...pray for him...and be nice. Make nice comments about things he hates. He's obvisouly just trying to get attention, so if you show that you're not bothered by his actions then he'd probably soon quit.

Also if that doesn't work, which I know that praying about it would, but, if you're not the religious type, then try making mean comments to him first. Beat him at his own game. Get others to join in, after he looks stupid he'd probably quit too. Lol. Anyways, Good Luck...ya never know, he might be one of those people who the only way to fix is to whoop their butts....Fighting isn't the right idea here, but hey, whatever works, works. =] Lol.

Answer 5

I understand teaching kids independence, but she is teaching them they can be mean to each other and get away with it! If I was the teacher, I would help your son stand up to it the first couple times...but when it continued I would sit down with the rude children and talk to them. They need to know what they are doing is wrong--and how will they know if no one says anything? Especially when your kid is in a class ranging from 7-11 year olds. if the 11 year olds are teasing, the 7 year olds are going to look and say "that's so cool!" and the behavior is just going to spread. Ugh. Maybe you need to conference with the principal and explain the issue and why you are upset with it. If the principal can't do anything about the current teacher, s/he might be able to help you with next years teacher or talk to the kids in question.

Answer 6

Well,I used to be "one of those".If telling them outright did'nt help,they probably will just keep doing it.Say it like it is.If you want this guy as a friend it has to stop.A ,"friend",would'nt do it after haven been talked to.2nd,As far as I know ,most girls really do not like having someone like that around either.Some just wo'nt say it to the others face.Stand up for yourself.You may be better off without him hanging there.There is always someone nice to be met.Expand your list.If a girl would rather be with that,she's the one that's insecure.Don't waste your time.You sound like a good catch.

Answer 7

no they dont, they like guys that get in trouble not pick on people. the reason he does this is because he is insecure within his self. you are doing nothing, hes using you to make his self look good alot of times theres not much you can do to change this just ignor him. doesnt the teacher see this? maybe bring it to a higher authority, but its only verbal so im not sure.

Answer 8

Two things that you can tell him, that he doesn't have to be that way and would have more friends if he talked to a counselor to get help for his problem, and that you would have a battle of wits with him but you refuse to fight an unarmed person.
you might also speak to a counselor about this because this is the type of person who can get violent and hurt others because he does not fit in.

Answer 9

Im Australian and havent gone through the whole college thing. Sounds scary and fun! good luck

If he is bothering you that much, you could always get a restraining order. OR just ignore him and get your friends to aswell. It sounds like he just has no friends.

Also, you could video tape him and show him how unfunny he is.

Answer 10

File a complaint against him. Say he is making it hard for you in class and you come there to learn, not to listen to negative jokes.