Is it right or wrong for a christian to live with a mate they are not married to?

Answer 1

Yes if they are committing fornication. The people who are all for it and say it is fine do not care what God thinks and are not interested in pleasing Him but only want to do what gratifies their fallen nature. A Christian is to live to bring glory and honor to God not bring a reproach to the name of Christ. A Christian will be disciplined and chastised by God for training in righteousness. Christians are not to live like the world. It is a bad example to those who do not know Christ and you will suffer the consequences of your sin. Do not use grace and forgiveness as an excuse either because we are not to use and abuse the grace and goodness of God like the unbeliever. If this is your lifestyle then read 1 John 3:6; No one who lives in Him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen Him or known Him. verses 9-10 reads; No one who is born of God will continue in sin, because God's seed remains in him; he cannot go on sinning, because he has been born of God. This is how we know who the children of God are and the children of the devil are; God is loving and forgiving but, if you can do this comfortably and be happy then you are not a Christian because the Holy Spirit will not let you rest in your sin.

Answer 2

It would depend up the covanent or contract that a person has with their god. Personally, I think it 'better' to live with a mate rather than go through the wedding thing, vow to your own god you will be together til death do ya part, then get a divorce--thus lying to your own god.

Deut 23:21-23 If you make a vow to the LORD your God, do not be slow to pay it, for the LORD your God will certainly demand it of you and you will be guilty of sin. But if you refrain from making a vow, you will not be guilty. Whatever your lips utter you must be sure to do, because you made your vow freely to the LORD your God with your own mouth.

Personally, I've always like the concept of the pagan 'handfasting'. Its a ceremony asking for the blessing of one's god(s) upon the union, but there is a time frame set within the vows. When the time frame expires they either revow or separate, then no lying to your god(s) and thus no sin.

One should note that the modern Christian concepts of marriage are very different than those of the people in biblical times. Polygramy was the norm (having more than one mate) and the vows were individualistic, rather than some cookie cutter thing.

Answer 3

Condoning Immorality

When individuals or organizations call themselves Christian, others have the right to assume that these are promoting Biblical Christianity. But Jesus warned: “Be on the watch for the false prophets that come to you in sheep’s covering, but inside they are ravenous wolves. By their fruits you will recognize them.” (Matthew 7:15, 16) In the magazine entitled The Christian Century one would expect to find counsel for Christian living. However, this publication carried an article by retired Church of Christ clergyman Porter French of Iowa that apparently condones that young men and women live together without marriage. He said: “We need to develop a more sound and secure view of sexuality in this country.” What did this include? He declared: “We can let our young men and women know that they are not going to experience condemnation and isolation if they try living together. . . . And those of us who were brought up in an age when living together was never considered a possibility may recognize that these who have taken greater risks than we did may, in the end, turn out to be wiser at an earlier age.”

But would not the Creator’s view be the really “sound and secure” one? God’s Word counsels persons to “shun fornication.” While mercifully allowing persons time to remake their personalities to conform to his righteous requirements, yet, concerning those who reject his high moral laws, the Bible says: “Make no mistake: no fornicator . . . will possess the kingdom of God.”—1 Corinthians 6:18, 9, 10, The New English Bible.

Answer 4

I personally believe it is wrong to live with someone you are not married to. I believe that doing this is violating one of the Lord's sacred laws of Chastity-- one of the ten commandments "thou shalt not commit adultery." Depending on whether or not you are Christian, or simply choose to believe or not believe this concept as important. Furthuremore, some may believe that this only refers to those who are married who sleep with another person. Read Hebrews 13:4. It speaks of "the bed undeflied" in marriage, as aposed to otherwise.

Questions to concider when making this decision:
How much I love this person?
Am I leaving myself wide open for heartache in the future?
How much commitment am I willing to make for this person? Is it only temporary?
What is the right thing for my/perhaps-our future family?
Do I feel 100% right about giving myself to this person without being married?
Why or why not?

Beyond all the religious aspects of it there are MANY sociological reasons as well. Go to this link for more info on that http://www.leaderu.com/critical/cohabitation-socio.html

Thank you for reading and hope this helps! :)

Answer 5

In today's world, most conservatives are against it, most liberals are for and/or fine with it. That applies to people in general, including Christians.

Though I'm not Christian, I have a fair idea of their beliefs... I think it would violate them to have a casual sexual relation with someone. But if you make private oaths of commitment to each other, and/or prayed to the Christian God for blessing of the union, and regarded each other basically as husband and wife... I think that's in line with Christian beliefs, ultimately. Does God really need a priest to publically approve of a wedding for God to approve it?

Answer 6

Hmmmmmmm, well, the kind of *living* together these days is, as I see it, and I say *I* see it, is wrong.... the Bible does speak of marriage first between man and woman, BUT there is also no given scripture as to *what* or *how* a marriage it to take place..... Marriages are NOT the same today as back in Moses day, or I think that way anyway, there was no formal ceramony , just two people making a vow before God....... soooooooooooo....... My opinion is this, IF 2 people have made that commitment and vow, and it is NOT just a *playing house* thing, then to God I believe they ARE married, or as the Bible says, *two become as one*...... go in peace......... God bless

Answer 7

The key is "for a Christian"...and the answer is that it is wrong. For the rest of the world, I don't have a problem with it...that is their choice. However, a Christian is supposed to follow the teachings of Christ and he made it pretty clear that he wants us to avoid all forms of "sexual immorality" one of which is fornication (sex outside of marriage).

Keep in mind, of course, that we all do things that are "wrong" in the eyes of God. I'm not even suggesting that a decision to have sex outside of marriage will have negative consequences...but it CAN...and if your relationship with God AND with the other person are important to you, why take the chance?

Answer 8

That would be a matter of opinion and denomination I would think. I'm sure fundies make a big deal out of it. Episcopalians? i doubt it. The Catholics couldn't care less. Almost every Catholic wedding I've been too lately,the couple has been together for years. Most have kids.

Answer 9

You would not have asked this question if you had no doubt about it. Think about it u'r self and weather you want to go through it in your future. First of all erase all u'r doubts if want to live with him or let go, cuz living in doubt creates more problems

Answer 10

Two unmarried people living together is referred to in the Bible as fornication. You will find over 30 scriptures when list fornication as a sin.