I really like a guy who's a year older...pretty sure he likes me back. Catch -- he has a girlfriend who's a complete b*tch to him and he doesn't deserve it. How do I show him that? ...and possibly start something between us?
2007-10-18 15:32:07 · 23 answers · asked by northern orchid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it seems liek im the b*tch here, but i'm not...she's just really mean to him and he deserve more casue he'd do anything to make her happy... :( and its so sad...
2007-10-18 15:33:36 · update #1
ok so i dont want to sabotage the relationship...i just want him to see how shitty he's being treated..and i'm not saying this casue im jealous, im seriousl. hopw is it me being jelaous when i walk down the hall adn he goes to hug her and she walks away from him disgusted...yet when he and i are talking she'll wrap her arms aorund him like she's been married to him forever? shes jealous of me! :P and rnadom people have told me this too.
2007-10-18 15:45:09 · update #2
play him that avril lavinge song- girlfriend or whatever haha
2007-10-18 15:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like someone else said, be a friend. Don't purposely try to ruin his relationship, because no matter what happens you will look like the ass. If you do try, and it works, then should he ever find out, he will wonder what would have happened with chick #1 should you not have interfered. Just let life play its game, sit back and relax.
However, if you want something to try to attract his attention while you are waiting, then just do every possible thing you can with him, nothing but innocent friend stuffs. If she is the b*tch, then when she finds out she will get irritated...and hopefully he defends his friendship, and that could possibly cause a rift. That is mainly because of their relationship has issues though, nothing to do with you aside from being a good friend...doing innocent friend things.
2007-10-18 15:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by zanilth1984 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait it out until their relationship fails. Being a homewrecker is nothing to be proud of, and you could really hurt both him, and hurt in the process. If she really is mean to him the way you say, then he probably won't put up with it much longer.
2007-10-18 15:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound a sad situation for the guy you like. However, there is not much you can do about it. And you can't show him that she is a b.... he has to figure that one out himself. In fact you would more than likely be doing harm to your chances of starting something with him if you choose to put her down either subtly or directly. You will not win his heart this way. I also advise not talking about her to others either as this may get back to him. The best way to play it is by being "nice" to everybody all of the time, especially to him of course (but not over the top) and he will hopefully see what a nice girl you are and work out for himself that the other one is not his type. Don't flirt with him while he is still with this girl. Just be friendly! If you show you get on well with others, smile, chat and laugh with others....he will see this and hopefully be attracted to you.
2007-10-18 15:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think he's *that* stupid that he's unaware of how she treats him?
Some guys prefer a dominant woman to one that's a pushover. And the more dominant she is, the more interesting she is. Meanwhile, you're incredibly boring.
Relationships are difficult. It's evil to interfere in someone else's relationship, no matter how you view the merits of that relationship.
There are 3 billion other guys in the world, and if you're unable to find someone to love among those 3 billion, it's pretty obvious that this one isn't going to work out for you, either.
2007-10-18 15:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to make a move on him. Even if his girlfriend treats him like crap, it's not classy at all to make a move on a taken man. If he asks for it, give him your opinion and advice on the situation. Otherwise, just be a good friend to him.
2007-10-18 15:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We usually get what we deserve, she could walk all over him and he will still love her rather than you.
I would wait patiently, but getting on with my life, if she is really that bad he will become aware that he does not like the way he is being treated and will break it off, then may be you can try to get his attention
Just remember, that in life what goes around comes around and if you do manage to break them up, you better be looking at the same thing done to you down the road
Point of reference
How do you know that he does not deserve what is coming his way, if he puts up with the bad stuff it could mean he is a bit of a wussy who cannot stick up for himself, did you stop and think about that?
2007-10-18 15:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont seem like the bad guy, BUT honestly, he has to BE a man and deal with the girlfriend he has. HE has to understand what she is doing and if thats not something he wants, he will move on. If not, and he is comfortable or feels sorry for her, then he wont, not right now.
DONT make a move on this, or it will come back to bite you.
2007-10-18 15:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she's mean to him? Of course your view is going to be biased because you're the other woman. You're not going to think "oh! she's the best for him, and i obviously should mind my own business!" Just go find another guy...if he liked you that much, he'd dump this chick and go with you.
2007-10-18 15:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what goes around,comes around!
It's mean to get the boyfriend while still in a relationship.Let him end the first relationship first before moving in.Don't stoop down to the level of the b*tch girlfriend or you'll end up just like her.
2007-10-18 15:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by anestrohan_63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ask yourself how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot.
Would you want someone trying to sabotage your relationship. She may be a mean girlfriend, but it is not your place to come between them.
He will eventually get tired of her ways and leave her. My advice would be to be his friend. If he likes you and his girlfriend is really that awful to him he will notice it.
2007-10-18 15:37:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋