how do i get my 2 yr old to wear pants he is nearer 3? i find it so hard for him to be toilet trained.... help

Question

he just refuses to do the toilet in the toilet...... he is in 3 school after xmas an i am panicing any ideas?

Answer 1

the more you worry and push him the less he will do it. follow his lead when he is ready he will do it. my little girl was 3, I worried, then just gave up on pressuring her. a few weeks later she decided she wanted to use the toilet, I did not make an issue out of it, she was trained within a week, no wet bed either.

too much pressure makes children do the opposite of what we want them to do

Answer 2

I have two boys and they are were both potty trained later than my daughter. Did you go out and buy some special pants with him and a potty? Then chose a week when you are going to be around home. Just take the nappy off and put pants on him, i would not bother with trousers at the moment. (less washing as well )Every half and hour or so sit him on the potty and see if he does a wee. If he does praise him a lot. Try reading him a story while he is on the potty.
Some children are afraid of falling down the toilet. I got my boys to stand up at the toilet, just lift the seat up and let him wee, you might have help him. Don't expect too much from him, you will have accidents but he will get there in the end. When you go out just take lots of changes of clothes with you and never shout at him. Remember to keep asking him if he needs a wee. If he feels that you have confidence in him he will thrive.

Answer 3

He is three so he has learned it is easier to just go in his pants. You need to put a pair of underpants on him and allow him to wet himself and he will most likely not like it. Then you need to keep after him every half hour for the first day then each day do a little longer between. But the thing is to make sure he knows this is what he needs to do. Try playing games like standing up when he goes pp and shoot the cheerios in the toilet. My son loved that and wanted to do that all the time. Good Luck.

Answer 4

hiya i am having the same problem.
my son has just turned 3 and just started pre-school.
he is quite happy to carry on playing whilst wet or soiled so cant work with that.
i have started to use a star chart. kids love stickers.
i tell him to sit on potty rather than ask him cos he always says no to needing a wee then wets 2 minutes later. i put him on potty every 20-30 mins and more often after a big drink.
he get 1 star for wee and 2 for poo(although that hasn't happened yet.)
he also get 2 stars if tells me himself he needs a wee or goes by himself.
if he gets so many stars a day he gets a treat and at end of week he gets a little toy car(only 49p from tesco, i am well stocked up.)
started yesterday and already making progress.
if refuses to go potty/toilet then wets straight after i take star off.
do not put nappies on whatsoever cos they get confused. i made mistake of putting nappy on whilst out last few weeks. it just confuses kids. even potty training pants do, they still too absorbent.
do not worry every child learns at different rates, boys are generally later and harder to potty train than girls as well. children wont do something unless they are ready to do it.
hope you succeed soon. i am sure you will.
good luck

Answer 5

Take one day to devote just to toilet training for the whole day.
Give him drinks all day long and every 20 minutes have him sit on the potty chair.
Make sure he drinks and sits.
Then when he "accidentally" goes in the potty praise him and tell him that he went pee and that is very good and he is a big boy.
There is never too much praise.
Have him wearing underpants only so he can pull them down easily.
It may take all day and this is all you can do for that day so plan accordingly.
Just keep working on it.
I saw a child expert do this on TV once and it worked.
Unluckily, it was after my kids were older so I couldn't try it.

Answer 6

I hate to say it , but you young mothers of today with disposable nappies , are too lazy to potty train your children at a really early age . It is not good enough to let them wet and deficate in their nappies , rather than sit them on their potty . By two years old they should be almost completely dry ; they have to learn psychologically to control themselves and not to like the warm wet feeling when they have done it , especially in bed . This can lead to a problem in adulthood .
If you son refuses to do it in the potty or toilet , you are going to have to make him . It is no good at this stage beeing feeble about it ; sometimes ," You have to be cruel to be kind ". I suggest you don't put any nappies on him , so that if he does it , he wets his shorts and it goes on the floor , which I don't think he will like .
You must establish a routine with regular times , like Poo Poo after breakfast and sit on the potty or toilet at frequent intervals and don't let him have a say in the matter . You can firmly tell him why .
Up to now it has not involved any embarrassment because he has the nappy .
The modern thinking , that babies aren't old enough to be taught to do it in a potty is nonsense , they can and learn by habit . For future reference , start potty training really early and then you won't have this problem .

Answer 7

dont make a big issue out of it, he will do it when hes ready, if hes allowed to go to preschool in nappies he will soon see the other kids are using the toilet and want to do it too, you nagging him about it will make him nervous and likely to have a lot of "wardrobe failures" my daughter would not use the toilet till she was nearly four, then she went to her cousins birthday party, decided she wanted to use the toilet and never looked back, and not one accident or bedwetting episode either, same with my son, except he started widdling in the toilet when he was three, but insisted on a nappy to poop in, we made a deal that he would use the toilet to poop when he was four, and thats exactly what he did, so dont rush him, its a sensitive issue for them, but they seem to work it out ok eventually!

Answer 8

Gina Ford's 'Little Book on Potty Training' is fab. Used it for both my sons who showed no interest in pants whatsoever at two & a half plus.
Pants with pictures on (Spiderman, Postman Pat .....or whatever they are into at the time) also helps.

Good Luck!!

Answer 9

Cant you patch the glasses? I had to try this with my son while he replaced into 3 years old. We positioned a patch on his specs and then plonked him in front of the television along with his in demand Thomas DVD on. i know that sounds destructive, in spite of the indisputable fact that it replaced into the only factor that would shop him distracted long adequate for him to positioned on the patch for a sustained length of time. We have been given a grant of the patches from the well being midsection and positioned stickers on proper of them to make it slightly extra eye-catching! he's 12 now, and the squint did splendid with patching interior of a few months, and he wore glasses consistently till December final 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, while the optitian informed him he ought to downgrade to donning at the same time as he watches television or reads. solid success!

Answer 10

if he can dress and undress himself then he is able to be potty trained. I wrote a response to this ( to lengthy to rewrite) in another parenting topic on this site. Try to find it, i think it was yesterday or the day before.
It truly takes one week to potty train a child. You need to pick a week that you can be in the house with him. You do need to start now because in nursery they not only need to be potty trained but have to be able to wipe themselves after a poo as well.