So my ex and I have been seperated for about 3 weeks now, she's had feelings for another guy that lives far away from us. She says she's in love with both of us and is trying to decide who she wants to be with. Well, during these 3 weeks, we've been having sex and kissing and doing al the normal gf/bf things. She recently spent time with this guy and on Sunday (Oct. 14) they became an official couple. the past couple of days she's been telling me to wait because she was gonna come back. Well yesterday we spent the entire day together and she wanted to sleep over at my place. I decided to allow it and when we went to bed, she asked to have sex. So we ended up doing it and now today she has felt like crap cause she realized she cheated on her bf. We're planning to have a talk in an hour or two and I'm not sure of what to say. I feel bad for doing this and I'm afraid I may have ruined any chance of getting back with her. What do I say to her? What do I say to try and have a chance still?
2007-10-18 14:25:37 · 18 answers · asked by Scott S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough situation. You need to determine if she truly feels guilty or if she's playing you because she wants to get back with the other guy. Plus, remind yourself of why you broke up in the first place. Life is short; it's probably time to move on.
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2007-10-20 10:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by James B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to settle down. The other guy maybe a better bet to settle down with, but she still has the hots for you.
Maybe she is waiting for you to say "yes, you are the love of my life, let's make it official" and trying to get you to feel jealous or aware of what you are missing out on.
Was in the same position as your girlfriend once, I ended up married to the newer boyfriend, even though I loved the ex. Now divorced.
2007-10-18 14:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 09:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh thats tangled
i think most people have had ex sex, but in your case there is a whole bunch of emotions involved.
you may just have to set her free to play the field for a while. if you are "meant to be" it will happen eventually.
most likely, though, you are both having issues letting go. there was prob a reason you split up, so just be nice, mature and supportive and try to move on for now
2007-10-18 14:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Alyssa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SILENCE.... thank you. dont break your neck trying to be with a woman. Most of them make it their life goal to act like they never need a man with that lame stuck up attitude, then they go loco and have breakdowns when they realize that they really are the problem for example(Mariah carey) what happens now lol. its simple, now that you know shes just the average s l u t, let it go, and you my friend get to go off on your next journey
2007-10-19 08:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dumped you for another guy. I would not classify as that being o.k. I think that you are crazy if you wait around for her. I mean that is up too you. But I feel that she is really disrespectful. Why would you want to put yourself in that kind of position? No one can make up your mind for you, only YOU can for yourself. So you should think about if your relationship is worth it or not coz it doesn't seem like it was worth much to her.
Good Luck
2007-10-18 14:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Princess420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is playing both of you. I can understand her wanting and being in love with both of you but unless the THREE of you are willing to work something out then she is always going to be flitting between the two of you. How long were you together? I would drop her because she is always going to be running back to him if you piss her off and visa versa, who needs the headache
2007-10-18 14:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your self cool and ask your gf to cool down for a few weeks and make her final choice. Let it go if she wants to leave you. What meant to lose will lose.
2007-10-18 14:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Peter L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, would you want a girl who would do that to you? Second, let her figure it out. She's the one who's cheating.
2007-10-18 14:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even want someone who is likely to hook up with other random people in the future anyway?
Cut all ties with this crazy person.
2007-10-18 14:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋