Torn..I am really torn!?

Question

I have been seeing a guy for a month. One evening we started to make out and it felt so close. The the next day he kept texting me about how great everything was and how I made his night perfect.

Then couple days later he tells me he likes me a lot, at which point I freak out...and tell him I need time to think about what we're doing. Eventually I broke up with him b/c he said plainly he didn't want to get hurt again and stuff...made me feel like I would hurt him for sure if I stayed with him!

It's been 1 month, I keep and keep thinkging about him....soo much....and last weekend we saw each other in a club but I freaked out again and..run!

I keep thinking abt him to the point I;m in physical distress...I want him close, no pressure, no stress, no ugly confrontations and explanations.

But something inside me tells me no, it's a abad idea..that I broke up with him for a good reason -he was too intense and demanded too much too fast.

I am torn, what is to be done?

yeah, give it a shot...but what if I do end up hurting him...I don;t understand how he could make such a demand on me -to not hurt him! We got really close but still...it's too much to ask from someone you're not committed to, married to!!!

oh Nathan you seem to get it. You nailed it!!!!

Answer 1

well, a guy should'nt start putting the stress of getting hurt agian on you after just a month. it seems like he is trying to pull you in too close and instead pushed you away to fast. go with your gut with love because its always right. if he really liked you, he wouldnt be bringing up getting hurt bye you. would'nt you be happier with a guy who was more worried about making you happy? i think you made the right choice in the end. you'll learn that mr. right is still out there!

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with too close too fast, those can be the most sincere people you ever meet. Don't be afraid of them, they usually feel things that you yourself couldn't possibly fathom. They are the light to your fire.

This is what I would say to the man who probably never stops thinking of you.

Sit here with me for a while, search deep within your heart and declare what it is you really want out of life. When you have found it pray and patiently wait. For you must remember, you are only capable of seeing the here and now and it is only God, who sees the beginning, middle, and the end. So, don't be angry when things haven't gone your way, be blessed. You never entirely know what you have been saved from. Don't be discouraged when you can't be who everyone thinks you should be. You never were, and it never bothered you before, so why start now. Everybody else is fake and one of the same and where is the attraction in that? It always fades.

If you haven't already been told before, You are a true force of nature and the spark to anyones incredibly dull life. Always knowing who you are is what makes you so amazingly beautiful, never lose sight of this. You are real when most people are not, so quit pretending like you care, when really you don't and just be proud. Stop fighting me on this and please, for once, trust me and just let go.

Now, take a deep breath of faith, release it into the unknown, and on those days when life feels so unbelievably worth it, remeber... I was the one who told you so.

Answer 3

Wow. yea take a step back and focus on why you think its a bad idea. Most of the time your "gut instinct" is right. Some guys are too intense and do demand too much and most likely he won't stop being like that. Guys tend to get attached very quickly and very strongly regardless of what they say its true for most. So if you are feeling "a bad feeling" about him then stay away.

Answer 4

well im not exactly too sure of why u r torn
maybe u need to just think that things happen for a reason
its not the end of the world but i know how u feel.
when people tell me its not the end of the world it makes me think
no the world isnt ending but mine is starting too.

i'm not sure
there are millions of ideas to get over him or to stick with him or to forget about him but
luv u need to make ur mind up about what u want to do first

if i make sense????

hoope everything works out
<3

Answer 5

Per your post, I seriously doubt you need to entertain the idea of a relationship with anyone. Date for the fun of it. As you grow up, you'll meet people who are ready for something on a different level. At your age, you need to take the time to get to know different people so you will have a better idea of what it is you're looking for. Good luck!

Answer 6

Usually the first reaction is the correct one! If you feel that way, then there must be a reason,so go with it! You have plenty of time to find the relationship that is right for you! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Let him know you still like him you just feel he was intense and demanding. Does he still like you? If he does and you let him know what was wrong, which you should have done when you two broke up, then if he wants to try to change give it another shot.

Answer 8

Give it a shot. You'll never really know for sure till you have him close. You may or may not end up hurting him. Just go for it and talk to him about how you really feel, speak your heart and mind.

Answer 9

you did sum this up and nope dont' go back with him. you knew what he was and that is great. stay away from him hes not for you. Hes a user i suspect and he'll be the one to make you cry and hes warned you take care and good luck

Answer 10

Look at all the good things and bad things about getting back together with him - weigh them, because no one should be making this desicion for you, it's in your heart.

Good luck!