what do am i really supposed to do?

Question

my grandma just died and what am i supposed to do?
am i supposed to be "interdependent", read Chicken Soup for the Grieving's soul, or am i supposed to feel "glum" because i didn't really think i gave her that much respect? plus, i forgot to mention that she was the last "grandparent" i had???
if you choose to say read a book for this, please choose a good book for this problem, and please put a link toward that? if you choose to say relax and don't worry much, YOU WILL NOT GET CHOSE THE BEST ANSWER!!!! and if you have something else, please give my something good, and if you have link with that, please add that....
THANKS

Answer 1

Everyone grieves differently so how you chose to do it is what's right for you. If you're sad and want to cry then go ahead. If you're angry and want to lash out then I'd suggest you go outside and throw rocks at a tree, get in the car (somewhere people can't hear you) and scream, yell etc.... to blow out some emotion. If you're not feeling anything then that's OK too. You're just suppressing your feelings and they'll come out when you least expect it. Write a poem, a story, a song. Paint a picture, knit a scarf, cross stitch etc... If you're religious then pray. Talk with Jesus about how your feeling. Tell Him everything even if you're angry (He already knows anyway). Meditate, go jogging, take a long walk and really notice nature. What will soothe you is something only you know.
Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

First of all, I am really sorry about your loss.

Be gentle with yourself and realize there is no "supposed to" about grieving. You feel what you feel, and you handle it the way you handle it. It will be rough for a while, so take it easy.

Here is a book my mother says is really great, and I've learned she's usually right about these things.

It's called "How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies"

If possible, let your parents help you. They are going through grief too and families do better when they pull together, usually.

Hope this helps, and take care.

http://www.amazon.com/Living-When-Someone-Love-Dies/dp/0553352695/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/105-1493480-5356428?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1192759792&sr=8-1

Answer 3

There is not anything you are supposed to do. You grieve. You remember your grandma. Honor her memory in a way you know she would appreciate. I haven't had a grandparent since 1990. You go on and live the best life you know how to because that's more than likely what she wants for you.

Answer 4

Why do you think you are supposed to do something? I think you are concerned because you are not really feeling so sad and you think you should. Just because someone is related to you does not mean you felt close to them. If you did not have a close relationship with your grandma, then you may not feel much of anything. If that's the case....then you would do well to just be supportive to those who did have a close relationship with her and are feeling the loss.

Answer 5

There is nothing in particular that you are "supposed" to do when someone dies. Everyone copes differently. I wrote my grandpa a letter when he died when I was 15, and put it in his casket as we walked by. And I still leave letters on his grave now, well, I havent in a while, but I do plan on it.

Answer 6

You sound a little flip about the whole thing...let's hope your grandchildren give you more respect than you gave your grandmother...funny thing though, bad behavior always comes around and bites you on the fanny.

Answer 7

i think that you should see a greif counselor. they will help you understand a lot more and help you believe that she is in a much better place

Answer 8

You could try prayer