My best friend had asked me to help her with her wedding, I am a wedding planner.I went with her fiancee (who happens to be my ex-bf from high school)to help pick out tuxes. We went to lunch afterwards, and had a few drinks.We ended up back at my place, and we slept together. I feel extremely guilty and don't know what to do. It was a one time thing and I feel bad, but I don't want to say anything because it will ruin not only her marriage, but mine as well.
2007-10-18 11:42:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So... what's your question?
2007-10-18 11:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by pecosee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What exactly is your question?? Is it, should I tell her? If so, then I would say to you that you should ask yourself "How well do you know your friend?" Do you think that she would really want to know what happened. I know that most people would say Yes to that, I know i would; but sometimes people can accept things when you least expect them too. Is she really happy with this guy? do you think that they have a REAL future together? how well do you know him other than the fact he was your high school boyfriend. Has it been a long time since you last saw him? how integrated are they in your life? Is this something you would do again? If you really love your friend, and you think she will have a good relationship with this man, and they have a fighting chance at happiness with each other, then don't tell her.
2007-10-18 18:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is complicated because its your friend and ex-boyfriend how did she end up with him. She may look at you like as if your jealous if she finds out. You need to stop being the wedding planner because what you did is wrong. Yes he participated too but something made you do it. Sometimes people do crazy things before getting married. Now you should concentrate on your marriage and think about why you did it and if you should speak to your partner. I would leave the couple alone. If you stick around it may cause more issues.
2007-10-18 18:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by mystcarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from both of them and tell her you cannot help.He didnt need your help picking out a tux anyway, I am sure he has a mother.
If it werent for the fact that you are married I would say to tell your friend so she doesnt marry this guy who will cheat on her andmaybe give her a disease later on.Her marriage is doomed already, his behavior proves that.Your is too if you EVER do that again, it may end up that way if he tells someone and word gets around.
2007-10-18 18:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you know now that it was wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. This mistake should stay in the closet. Do not tell. Go on with your life and help your friend. If her fiancee says anything, tell him you realize it was wrong and you feel badly about it, and don't want it to happen again.
Some mistakes must stay in the past to prevent hurting other people and causing irreparable long term damage to someone's life.
Take care my friend.
2007-10-18 18:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by a10cowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best for you to be up front with your best friend from the get go. If nothing else than she needs to know. As for your own marriage, that is up to you. But eventually the secret will either be found out or eat you up alive. Also, I would help her find another wedding planner.
2007-10-18 18:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by N M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say she is your best friend if so then she deserves 2 know that he cheated on her.u should feel guilty. but she has the right 2 know.u knew what u were doing before u did it. now u have 2 step up and tell her what happen.keeping this inside will only make things worse u know that.
2007-10-18 18:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by kim d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW.. thats a whole load right there.
Uhmm My advice is Honestly i dont know what to tell you .
what you did was wrong and you know it is. But to be honest you have to sacrifice your relationship and his/hers.. But you did it for a reason even tho you feel bad/guilty it still happen. I always believe in honesty first but on this one... GIrl you have your hands full.
Good luck
2007-10-18 18:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Baby_Eyes_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. I know its cleeshay. You'll just get found out later, and will make it worse. Before I tell your best friend, I would consult your husband, and get a second opionion from someone who knows your friend and her fiancee
2007-10-18 18:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on! Let her know what kind of a guy she's about to marry. She may hate you for a while but in the end she will thank you for being honest...
2007-10-18 18:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Candi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you do that to your "best friend"? No amount of alcohol can excuse what you two did.
If you tell her, you will destroy her but she will move on and find a true friend.
If you don't tell her, you will destroy yourself.
2007-10-18 19:00:47 · answer #11 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋