My dad is moving out and Mom wll be losing our house in a few months. The break up of my home has been at this house. I would like to live with my Dad until Mom moves. I don't want Mom hurt or mad, but I could live with Dad until then. Dad is the one that screwed the family up and I really struggle with being mad at him, but I just want some peace back in my life and he will get to move on before Mom can. What should I do?
2007-10-18 11:38:25 · 6 answers · asked by ggirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just want what is best for my son. I don't care where he lives. I just know if his father is in the home, the bills cannot be paid as his father spends the money faster than he can get it home. I think my son deserves things like electricity and food
2007-10-18 11:56:58 · update #1
My son is 11 yrs old his father and I have been married for 15 years, and just moved 3 months ago into a home we built but cannot afford as his father spent all of our money
2007-10-18 12:26:30 · update #2
live with both, dont allow either of them to pit you against the other, your there child, an you love them both, so talk with both mom an dad, about maybe 3 days one place 4 days the other, then 4 days first house, and 3 days back to second. this can work out to your advantage. my son has this arrangmentment with me an his mother, an we didnt get a divorace because of infedelatiy but because we wernt happy, now the way i see it, were all happyer, an my son is happyiest!
2007-10-18 11:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How does your mom feel about you moving in with your father on a temporary basis? Even though your dad "screwed-up" the marriage, he is your dad. Can you not at least be friends for a while. Usually though in a marriage there are two sides of the story. A failed marriage usually takes two people doing or not doing something. As the child in the situation perhaps you only see or hear one side of the story. By giving your dad a chance to stay in contact with you is something you will never regret. To shut him out of your life is something you will be sorry about later. I'm sure your mom will understand that it is not her but the house that bothers you.
I'm sure they both still love you and as long as you still love both of them, give both of them a chance to be with you and show you that they still love you.
2007-10-18 11:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You son is clearly torn in choosing between you and his father. A child should never, ever have to choose between his parents.
It should be made clear to him that his happiness and well being comes before you or his fathers. Explain to him that it's OK that he's not angry with his father. Assure him that you will NOT be angry or mad at him for choosing to live with his father if that is what he prefers.
Your issues with your ex should not become your sons issues. You need to shield him from your true feelings of your ex and not involve him in any of the nastiness of the divorce. You and your ex need to put up an amicable front for your son and not bad mouth one another to him.
2007-10-18 11:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hokie_Pokey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he has every right to be upset with his dad. Mine was 7 when we broke up and he punched his dad square in the nuts. I was mad at the time and told my soon to be ex to "suck it up". Secondly, he needs to be where he feels most comfortable, but depending on his age he should be with his mother if he young only because he is upset with dad and he may get more upset if dad is unable to comfort him.
2007-10-18 11:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?Why isnt your baby's dad supporting you?Why are you living with your parents?What kind of guy did you make a baby with?
If you have to boot your b/f out and file for child support.
2007-10-18 12:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pose the question to your mom just as you have here. She should understand your feelings and not be hurt if you word it exactly as you have done here.
2007-10-18 11:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋