So my dad hates me and blames me for my moms death.(She died in childbirth 13 years ago when I was born) Anyway he is going to England for 9 months and gave me a choice to live with my older brother,21, or with my great aunt. Now who would I be able to get away with stuff eisier with. Big brother or great aunt??
2007-10-18 11:30:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are 13 years old and want to go with the adult that will let you get away with more? THat is not what the adults in your life are for. We are here to help our children or children we know to look for the right things in life and how to live life so that when they become adults they can make the right choices. If your brother who is 21 is anything near responsible I doubt he is going to let you get away with much. And the great aunt? Have you been around her a lot? Chances are she won't let you get away with a lot easier either...she is mostly from the old school of doing stuff. I would not do this just to be able to get away with things. I would look for it as an opprotunity to do things with the person I would be staying with and learn from them as well.
2007-10-18 11:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by taljalea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an adorably sweet young lady you sound like.... and you'd like to live with whomever will let you get away with more huh? Well you sound rather like a spoiled brat and I would NOT let a 21 year old BROTHER try to take care of you for ANYTHING.... if your father is in the LEAST a responsible parent, he will make you stay with your great AUNT... At 21, your brother is NOT mature enough to take care of himself AND you.... Your great aunt hopefully HAS some experience with children and that is EXACTLY what you are- - - -A CHILD... Has your dad EVER come out and TOLD you that he hates you? He can't blame YOU for your mom's death REGARDLESS of what you think... you are NO more to blame then I AM... and I'm sure deep down inside he KNOWS that... it's just that maybe every time he LOOKS at you, it reminds him of YOUR MOTHER!!!! that is HIS problem... When you get a little older, you will explain all that he is going through and maybe you and he can end up being good friends.... but for now---STAY WITH YOUR GREAT AUNT...
2007-10-18 19:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with your Aunt. It will be a more stable environment. At age 13, you don't need to be hanging around with your brothers friends. Go to school and be nice to your Aunt. It is very kind of her to invite you to live with her. I'm sorry about your Mom. You had nothing to do with her death.
2007-10-18 18:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to get away with, something that would get you in trouble, and maybe ruin your life. I say go with the person that will keep you the safest. When you become of age you can do what ever you want to mess up your life, but why would you want to get the person in charge of you in trouble. Does your Dad tell you that he hates you? Or is this your way of getting some sympathy from people that don't know all the facts?
2007-10-18 18:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your great aunt. Your life will be better.
Your brother is likely to be flakey when you need him most (nothing personal, just what most 21 year old guys are like -- I could be wrong).
Life will be more pleasant for you with your great aunt -- unless she's really, really horrible to you.
2007-10-18 22:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋