temper tantrums?

Question

my 3 yr old daughter has started having major temper tantrums when i change channel on tv or if she wants a piece of fruit / buscuit or juice, she will throw herself on floor kicking and screeming, she has started doing this at nursery too. I tend to do 2 things, 1st distract her or place her on the naughty step, but most of the times neither work, Any one have any idea on what i can do as my 23 month old is picking up on this and is starting down the same path

Answer 1

eek they say 2 is bad but at 3 they start growing their ego.

Keep doing what you're doing and be consistent tell her, her behaviour is unacceptable and that she's made the choice to behave that way and reinforce things like the naughty step - if she gets off put her back on...

we have (Ive mentioned before) a chart on the wall a rainbow with a grumpy cloud one end and a happy sun the other with a photo of my son in the middle
we've said if he does behaves ( so when he does something he'd usually kick off with ) he moves nearer the sun and the same if he's naughty and normal discipline doesnt work he moves close to grumpy cloud.
We've said that when he reaches the sun he gets a treat - something small, a trip to the park a small choccy but we've said if he sits in the cloud he gets no treats - it seems to work now the threat of being moved near the cloud is enough for him to appologise and calm down

Answer 2

the naughty step does work but you would be amazed at the amount of parents who cannot do it correctly. First thing first. Stop with the tv. If she does not like you changing the channel then that shows she is addicted, turn it off. second- never deny her a piece of fruit. Unlimited healthy snacks like that are a great way to get your kids to be better eaters in the future. No biscuits please, biscuits and juice ( if not fresh squeezed) have way to much sugar and should be limited to 2 biscuits per week, so it is a good idea to have them out of sight. After all " out of sight , out of mind"
Distracting a 3 year old is not good. two and under should be distracted not three. Three is the perfect time to enforce the naughty step or cool down area . Again i shall not repost this lengthy detail,it takes too long, i just posted it in the last few days so backtrack to find out how to do it proper.
Another way is to ignore her tantrums by simply walking away. Never indulge her tantrums if you do she wins.

Answer 3

My son used to do this. I tried everything from ignoring him to putting him into his room as well talking to him nothing would work.

I found that the only way I could stop/control his tantrums (its not as drastic as it sounds) was to physically pin his arms onto the floor when he was lying down.This meant my sitting straddled across his body, talking to him in a quiet and calm voice while he tried to kick or punch me. He could not do it. He would get so angry, screaming and crying and then he would eventually stop. This was because he had used up all his energy and he also knew that I had took control. Afterwards I would tell him if he did it again, then I would do it to him again. It soon stopped

Answer 4

DONT GIVE IN!!! STAND YOUR GROUND, stay strong and dont lose your cool, easier said than done i knowbut i have learnt you have to be more persistent than they are, cruel to be kind, it may sound hard but i have learnt to just walk away from my daughter ignore her and let her scream and shout all she wants, i find she just gives up, and now she rarely disputes for more than a couple of mins, because she knows shes wasting her time!! and yes distracting her has worked on several occasions, i havent yet needed to use a naughty step, good luck

Answer 5

my son started this at 18 months he is now 2 i just walk away and leave him to throw his fit and he comes out of it himself 1 minute he will be taking a paddy the next he is playing with his toys again. my gran used to go running to him every time he took 1 but quickly realised it was better to walk away. i wouldn say put her in a room on her own as she may hurt herself while taking a tantrum. hopefully by walking away your other child will see that it doesn't work to throw a tantrum. good luck with it!!

Answer 6

Start doin' the kicking and screaming too. She'll look at you like you're crazy.But she'll shut up too. Then in short quick commands, state what you want and make her do it. and keep up with the "no" and the "time out". I just started this and have found that it really works.

Answer 7

Don't give in! As soon as she realises that it doesn't work she'll stop doing it. Put her on the 'naughty step' after she's calmed down and explain why - but don't let her win.

Answer 8

little ones have diverse techniques of appearing out their anger. i could try handing him a toy or 2. He might throw it back at you, yet %. it up back and hand it back to him. you may desire to get his interest on something else. the biggest suited is to get him distracted from the habit he's enticing. do no longer yell at him in a noisy voice. you won't have any administration over what's inflicting the project, yet you are going to be waiting to assist defuse his reaction to the project. I relatively have got here across in case you will only %. a new child up and walk outdoors with one, they are going to clam down. in basic terms a transformation in the ambience.

Answer 9

I would put her in a safe enviornment and let her throw her fit. If you run to her and give her attention she will learn that is what to do to get attention or her own way. Make sure you say, when you are ready to stop being up set and talk I will talk to you. And make sure she is safe from objects and such.

Answer 10

I agree.Let her scream and kick as long as she wants and she will eventually get the point that it isn't going to work anymore.Make sure she is safe from hurting herself.And be aware that she will scream and kick harder and harder to try to get your attention because in her mind it always use to work so if she tries just a little bit harder she might get you.Do not give in.