How can I cheer him up?

Question

My boyfriend is going thru a really hard time right now financially, emotionally and phsically. Today a rock flew up and hit busted the windshield in his truck. He said, "this is the last straw." It was so sad! Any good suggestions on ways to cheer him up? He is 24 and I'm 20. Lives by himself. We are both tight on money right now so I can't take him out to eat or anything. What can I do???

He loves music, esp hard rock. He is a city boy - actually likes to go shopping. He loves sushi... wish i knew how to make it!

Answer 1

You could surprise him by making him dinner at his apartment. Rent a movie and drink some wine. Just be there for him in general. Be supportive emotionally. Sex always helps too.

Answer 2

Just being there sometimes is the best a person can do for someone they love.
Don't always feel like you have to cheer him up, or even understand why he is depressed. Sometime people just need space.
Take a good look at how well you know each other and then ask him if he needs alone time, or how you can best help him.
Sometimes admitting that you don't have the answer, and just being there will strengthen a relationship. Because all relationships have limitations, you can't be his EVERYTHING, and still be truly happy yourself.
Going out and spending money isn't the only way to cheer somebody up!! There are other ways to go out, plan a picnic, make a super dinner, everything he likes! Rent a great movie that you both enjoy (not just him). Just let him know that you are there, to listen, or to just be there, quietly. Don't beat yourself up because he feels bad. Nothing you say or do can change the way a person feels. It is something that we, as human beings need to understand: No one can MAKE us feel anything or anyway! We are responsible for ourselves, including our feelings!
So until he decides that life is worth while you can only be there!
Wish you both luck!

Answer 3

Most of the time, and believe me most men won't say this, but when u two get together just be there for him. Or if u can when together make him dinner. Umm watching a movie with each other helps. Just letting him vent is another idea. Trust me a man bottles everything up inside just like a woman does. A back rub helps or foot rub. These things are stuff u 2 can enjoy together and not spend any money..go for a walk in the park or a beach if you're near one. You're best bet just let him know that you're there for him. And just be there men are simple people trust me. My guy and i are living together and money is tight but when stuff goes down he knows i'm here for him and he's happy. With all the stuff that's going on he's happy and that's what matters most is that you're there for your guy. hope that helped...and smile things will get better. If u're religous praying works to.

Answer 4

Why don't you have a picnic? You can pack sandwiches and drinks from home, then play a game out at the park. If it's already cold where you live, have the picnic indoors--spread the blanket on the living room floor and eat there. Then play games, kiss and cuddle, or watch a movie together. Ask him if he wants to vent, but if he doesn't, then at least the night will help him forget his troubles for a while.

Answer 5

well this might help as far as the windsheild go's. My son threw a rock at my friends windsheild and cracked it and we didn't have the money to replace it so we just told her to call the county and say that you had debris hit the window while driving on the highway and the county has to replace it, and sure enough they did.and men really like a home cooked meal, far better then being tooken out to a resturant.

Answer 6

You could cook him a nice meal, go for a long walk and pamper him.. Tell him you love him and support him and make sure he knows how much you care about him. Just make sure that you look after yourself. When you are trying to deal with someone elses stress or depression it's easy to fall into it yourself and not look after yourself.. Make sure he is also making sure you are ok, and if you are there for each other it will all work out in the end..

Answer 7

U would need to put info on wat he likes (ex: does he like sports, is he really technological, is he lazy? wat?). My best guess would be for u too get something cheap but something that means something like a little statue or a statuette of something he likes (my mom got my dad a red sox statuette when he wasent feeling good and it cheered him up). U should tell him that everything is a complete coincidence (sorry cant spell it) or if he is really spiritual or something u can always tell him that whenever there is bad luck, it is always backed up by good luck or something like that. U need to put more info about the guy for a better answer tho. Hope this helps :)

Answer 8

Sit back on a sofa with him and watch TV dont let him do anthing himself and jsut relax for a ngiht. Maybe sex aint the best thing cos he is already exhausted him just cooling down and unwinding would be good for him.

Answer 9

Spend some time with him. Tell him how much you care about him. Give him a back rub (or more if you guys have already gone there). Cook him dinner.

And above all, remind him that you still think he's ok, despite what he's going through.

Answer 10

Cheer him up by telling him jokes. Laughing is the BEST medicine to get some things they hate to think about. Go online and search for the funniest jokes! Also, eating chocolate can help and help him massage his shoulders.