I rsvped to a bar mitzvah about 15 days ago. The date of the bar mitzvah is november 3rd. today is october 17th. would this be too late to cancel? (would it be rude?) what type of reasons for cancels would be appropriate?
2007-10-18 09:41:24 · 6 answers · asked by XxsoccertennisvolleyballxX 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Send a nice gift and a card explaining that you will not be in attendance after all.
No need to make up stories , just tell the simple truth.No one needs to know why your plans have changed.
2007-10-18 09:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cammie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi there,
It is not to late. I have 7 boys and they all had a catered affair for their Bar Mitzvah's.
The caterer always asks you to call him about a day or two before the event, to advise him of how many people will be attending the affair.
As far as being rude, it is not rude. I always say "honesty is the best policy". However in some cases you have to judge what to say depending on your relationship with this person, or if you will hurt her feelings, or if you will be embarrassed to tell her the real reason why you are cancelling.
An appropriate answer could be, you had a previous engagement which you did not remember when you answered her invite. You will be out of town, and did not recall when you replied. Something came up and you are not privy to share it with her, however you really feel badly that you will not be able attend and share this joyous occasion with her.
When you do call to cancel, if you get an answering machine do not leave a message why you are cancelling. That would be rude. Call back till you can talk to the person personally. You can also send a gift, or a check with a nice card if you would like to. It would be nice, but it is not a "must do"
Good luck.
2007-10-18 11:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You made a commitment to attend. That means the family is planning on counting you among the guests. Is it a meal, a small home get-together, or a lavish blow-out?
Canceling is always rude, and gives the host the idea that you found something better to do that date.
However, you are only one guest, and there are probably many that haven't even bothered to reply yet.
Appropriate reasons to cancel? A death in the family (certainly that hasn't happened so far in advance),
a job interview in another city, or a major career move requiring you to take classes. A surgery scheduled (even elective).
How important is their friendship to you?
How close are you to the young man?
There's no easy way to bow out gracefully.
But with a legitimate reason, the host will understand if he or she is a good friend.
2007-10-18 09:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't lie. But it would be nice if you made a call and let them know you are sorry you will be unable to attend after all.
2007-10-18 09:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not too late. But tell the truth, and make a phone call.
2007-10-18 09:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Prefect 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
just tell them that you think it is stupid to believe in god and that they should ditch thier foolish little fairy tale and live in the real world.
tell them you refuse to take part in them brainwashing thier child as showing up would be giving silent consent to them doing so.
2007-10-18 09:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋