I think you know after what... I don't for some reason, and I thought most women were supposed to like that??? I love to cuddle with my kitties and my little one, but when it comes to my intimate partner, I am so "done" when I'm done and could care less about being "close" after.... I'd just as soon they disappear off the face of the earth to be honest... hehehe.. I've even been criticized for this.... Do you think it's not normal or simply a normal variation??? Thanks...
2007-10-18 09:33:17 · 15 answers · asked by Mercedes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I think I definitely have intimacy "issues"... have been told that in nearly every relationship.. have been told I'm VERY hard to get close to and that I'm also very hard to hold on to.. I just think I've been burned a time too many and have decided not to give my heart away anymore at this point.. Therapy is not something that's going to help because I'm actually very happy this way... seriously....
2007-10-18 09:40:07 · update #1
And... has nothing to do with being tired... heck, I would be up to having more "fun", I just feeling like the guy wanting to "cuddle" is being fake... Like he's just trying to appease me.... Like he's not being genuine... I know that may not be true, but that's the way my mind works these days... I feel like if I cuddle with a guy, he's getting over on me or something crazy like that... I feel like, "Don't bother trying to cuddle with me, because I know you're full of ......"... Not reasonable but nevertheless, the way I feel... Thanks for all the insight...
2007-10-18 09:44:09 · update #2
Well, I don't have flippant sex, only the main guys that have been in my life all these years.. I think my crazy ex-husband ruined me, lol... sad but true... I guess the bottom line is not trusting any man enough to get close to them because I have found the ones I have trusted have not turned out to be trustworthy...
2007-10-18 09:47:43 · update #3
puttockc - Can we just have sex?? Just kidding, lol... OK.. you're hot... I'll marry you....
2007-10-18 09:50:14 · update #4
It's normal. men treat us like that all the time.
2007-10-18 09:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man, I must tell you that THIS is the most offensive behaviour that I have ever encountered.
It has been done tome on more than one occasion.
Afterwards, I feel like I would rather have not had sex in the first place.
Would you like it if a guy just grabbed you and stuck it IN with no warm up and no kissing.
For a guy like me, This would be a very equivelent behaviour.
I know it souinds extreme, but I guarantee, I am not in the minority of feeling this way.
I would avoid sex totally until you get this problem resolved. AND believe me, only the brave complaned. The ones who did not are afraid that they will get cut off completely. They figure ANY sex is better than none.
Not for me. Stay away.
(Gee I hope I did not sound bitter).
2007-10-18 16:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Answerman 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am the cuddling type, but I know people like you that at the end are so tired that cuddling is the last thing in your mind. As for the ones that have criticized you tell them that you are different from the rest. If you are happy the way you are don't change for anyone.
2007-10-18 16:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by bibi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. The boyfriend will lay on top of me for a minute and it kills me!! Get off and let me cool down!! I sleep with my back to him and he'll come spooning me. Don't get me wrong, there are times I love to cuddle and stuff. Just not right after that!!
2007-10-18 16:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by BoredinVA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love to cuddle afterward cause to me it shows that i'm apreceated. not just a play toy or something to help a man get off if you know what i'm talking about. everyone's different i guess it's a personal preferance. it's normal.
2007-10-18 16:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by dalana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to cuddle/snuggle when I like who I just had sex with. If you just finish doing the business with someone you don't really care about then of course you don't want to cuddle/snuggle with them, I wouldn't either! So to answer your question, I like to cuddle/snuggle with the right person!!!
2007-10-18 16:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by edgarpalba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you've had some bad partners. When in a relationship, yeah its normal.
For ummm, 24 hour encounters...no. Thats weird. (just realized how weird that sounded. If I know you well, yeah i'll cuddle. If I dont, I will have grex with you, but wont cuddle...hahha)
2007-10-18 16:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Phil M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ohhh no...I would not like to be with you. I am a man...and I love to cuddle after making love. We kiss and talk and hold each other, and lots of times it leads to more love making. Booooo you suck!!!
2007-10-18 16:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I never learn to cuddle after the deed"Until resently my new man..Like's to cuddle like "WTF" I'm like ummok..fast so I can go to sleep lol..
yeah..I guess make's them feel used..lol..I just usually used to turn over and sleep like a bey-bey baby"-
Crap-when you are tired..you need SLEEP..so why cuddle is like hey"do you mind..going to sleep now..And yes I'm a women..I have issues lol--
I think I'm normal so you are too..welcome to NO SNUGGLE CLUB"
lol
2007-10-18 16:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may have been a preying mantis in your previous life...
2007-10-18 16:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Gary 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋