Do you think I'm ready for sex?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. He asked me out when he was an eighth grader and I was a freshman. Now Im a senior and hes a junior in high school. I'm big on waiting till marriage because I'm a Christian and so is he. But everyone always tells us that they can see us getting married. Me and bobby (my boyfriend) always talk about how we're going to get married some day. He never pressures me, he always says "I can wait when and if you're ready" It's the perfect relationship, but me and him both were taught that you're supposed to wait until marriage. We've been talking about sex lately, (and just for the record, the only thing that we do together is make out). I don't know what to think though. Obviously if Im not 100% sure than I shouldn't do it, but I dont know what Im supposed to think, I dont know.

HELP!

Answer 1

i am sure you will go to college and not be with that boy forever. that is just life. save yourself. don't do it. if you have only made out with him you could at least go a little further with some petting and such. or even some oral sex first.

Answer 2

Well it sounds like you already know the answer to your question. If you still have ANY doubts then don't have sex. It's great that he never pressures you, that's a sign that he respects you. He cares about you and not just sleeping with you. Until you are 100% sure, hold off. Sex when you're ready for it and really wanting it is the best kind. Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with or might regret later on. Making out is fantastic, there are other ways of being intimate without going all the way. Don't ever feel pressured; do what you know is best for you!

Answer 3

If she is not ready then don't push her. She may have several reasons you don't know of. There are other ways to be intimate with each other, without having sex. Discover each other's body, you might want to do that slowly as well if she get's a bit nervous.

Answer 4

This question is something that can only be truely answered by yourself, but let me shed some light on the situation. Yes, you were born and raised as christians and this is not a bad thing at all. I went to a private Lutheran school for 11 years and the same things you've been taught have been drilled into me. I was told the same things, that sex before marriage is taboo and all that jazz. Really, what you need to do is take a look into yourself and judge by your OWN instincts, don't judge by what has been drilled into you or by what OTHER people tell you to do. The bible sets up a lot of good morals and sets up a lot of great standards for us as people to live by. But the bible is (in my mind) like a survival guide. You use it to help you along and to keep you alive, but it is not your life. Do not let what others have drilled into you rule over you, rather take what YOU believe from it and live by that. If you believe that waiting till marriage is right for YOU and your b/f then wait. If however, you and your b/f feel ready to take that step, then take that step. Live your life the way you want to and be comfortable with who you are.

Answer 5

If you believe that waiting for marriage is right, then wait for marriage. The thing is, if you give in now and have sex with him, he may end it tomorrow, before you marry him. Then, you will regret doing it. So, until he puts the ring on your finger and says "I Do", wait for that day. Don't change your belief just because someone says they see you and he together for the rest of your lives. If you go to college, you might meet someone there. This guy could be the one, however waiting is not a terrible thing either.

Answer 6

That's cool that you can see yourself getting married but honestly don't get your hopes up... cause then if it doesn't work out it will hurt so much worse... LIVE FOR EACH DAY... don't think too far in the future, I've been with my bf for over 4 years and he and I talked about marriage but I have to live in reality and even though I'd like to marry him, I can't promise him that we'll be together forever. But anyways about the sex...I really don't think anyone can talk you into it or out of it, it is all up to the both of you. You don't have to just going directly to vaginal sex... you can start off with touching each other and exploring, you also need to know what you like and don't like when you masterbate and voice that to your bf... so that he knows what's good and what's bad. It is such a fun experience to get to know each other's body and grow with each other ... and I've had sex with my bf for a long time and it doesn't get old... it's always different, it's always wonderful. But ultimately it is your decision and I wish you luck :)

Answer 7

If you are asking questions like this you are definately not ready for sex. To have sex for the first time and not regret it afterwards you need to have no doubt in your mind that you want to have sex.

If you want to wait until marriage then please wait. Don't feel pressured into doing anything that you don't want to do.. by your bf or anyone else for that matter. If you want to wait then everyone else MUST respect that.

I say you have a great man there who is willing to wait with you. Stick to YOUR values.. trust me if you don't you will regret it

Answer 8

Don't let the pressure get to you, stay calm and cool and wait till marriage, you know that, that will make it that much more special... If you like making out with him, then chances are you will love making love to him and vise versa..

Be proud of who you are and let the world shine on. You are special.

Answer 9

To me, if your asking this question, then your not ready. If your have beliefs and morals then live your life. Continue waiting until your ready and the time is right.

Answer 10

If your Christianity is important enough for you to mention, then you have your answer. Otherwise, it's b.s.

Get a college degree, get a job, get married, have children and LOVE each other. That will prove your commitment.