If Muslim women have the "right" to be provided for by her husband, why does she not have the right to take another husband? What happens if her husband cannot provide her with the things she needs or wants? What if the husband is sterial? What if he is bad in bed? What if he just cannot get ahead in his career and they are forced to live in a tiny hut and eat rammen every day?
It is my understanding that if a Muslim woman cannot have sex anymore or cannot produce a child, the man may take another wife. Why does it not work the other way?
2007-10-18 08:53:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I ask these questions not to ridicule or to tell Muslims they are wrong but to try and understand myself. There might be some fustration behind my questioning because every time I ask questions, I get told I am ignorant, I get shut off or I get told about my societys problems. It is fustrating.
2007-10-19 02:32:37 · update #1
Your questions are foolish in your this post Muslim women have not asked you to become their advocate. They know their rights and they are enjoying their rights far better than you do.
Muslim women are much happier lwith their lives than you can ever imagine.
You seems to be able to think nothing more than sex and material things. You should talk more about social problems in your own societies. May be I can suggest how to solve your family and social problems and what parents can do top their daughters from lossing their virginity before they get married. Girls in your society suffer a lot of pain over and over in the name of love. .
2007-10-18 14:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by majeed3245 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In this case, she has the right to divorce him! It's as easy as that. Not that hard...If the husband does take another wife, he MUST be able to provide for all wives equally emotionally and financially. If he cannot, it is forbidden for him to marry another wife. Also, he must get permission from his current wife(s) before taking another. Polygamy is hardly practiced among Muslims; I'd say about 1% of Muslims practice it. It is not common nor is it a requirement. Also, one man can make four women pregnant, but one woman can only be pregnant once at a time; in a lawful Islamic relationship, one woman sharing multiple husbands just doesn't make sense. The identity of the father may be an issue as well. There are reasons that polygamy is allowed, but the circumstances are strict and make a lot of sense. There are reasons behind it all, but everyone only sees "polygamy" and nothing else, and judge from there.
2007-10-18 16:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Omer 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your "understanding" is far from correct.
The reason a muslim woman cannot take a second husband is she is the one who carries the child and the paternity of the father would be in question. Well when you love your husband and you fall on hard times and what he can provide is lessend a marraige is not soley based on what you can gain from your spouse. Never heard of for richer and poorer? If her husband is sterial and she loves him and wants to stay with her husband they do the same as any other married couple, adopt. If he is bad in bed then that can be rectified anyone can improve there skills its not rocket science.
When you are in love you can live under the stars and be happy, muslims are no different.
A muslim man can only, ONLY take a second wife if his first wife agree's. He has to have a very good reason for wanting a second wife and he has to prove that he can provide for that second wife emotionaly, finacialy and physicaly without detracting from his first wife and treating them both equally. As a muslim myself i know of not one single muslim who has a second wife, not one. It was mainly practiced in times when women lived in small villages and men fought in battles. Men are killed in battle and the man for every woman ratio takes a sharp dive. It was an honourable act for a first wife to agree to a young widow or a girl with no hope of a man of her own to allow her to be a second wife. Giving her the chance to be a wife and mother and in those days that was really all a woman dreamt of. It really does not apply in this day and age as there are lots of wonderful muslim men to go round. Hope that puts it straight for you.
Blissfully happy married muslim woman.....
Oh and PS muslim women have every right to divorce there husbands if they are abusive etc. We have every right to divorce if that is what we want. Marriages are sacred in Islam we dont just through in the towel because we are having a few problems. We have a system of seperations and trying again repeating 3 times to see if we are sure, sure and sure again. We have support and treat marriage with the respect it deserves.
2007-10-18 16:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
InshAllah my husband will not be sterial, but i would not leave him for that, not at all, we would adopt :)......but you can divorce if you want, but you cant on another hubby while your already married.
2007-10-18 20:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Knowing who the father is --- is very important.
Islam does not have a problem with illegitimate children.
Multiple fathers would make paternity difficult to estalish.
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2007-10-18 16:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
She does.
She can ask for a divorce and move on with her life the way she pleases.
2007-10-18 16:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Antares 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its sexist really. But in most western countires you dont see the 4 wife rule being practiced. Dont listen to the media. There ARE moderate muslims
2007-10-18 15:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
she can simply divorce
2007-10-18 16:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
simply she can divorce him.
2007-10-18 17:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not Only Muslims!!!
2007-10-18 16:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by lilzozx 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋