I've wanted to change my name since i was in pre-school. I've always been made fun of and felt weird... i'm even too embarrassed to say what it is in here because i just hate it so much. I asked my mom if she would take me to get it changed when i turn 18 (i'm 15 now)... and she said yes. She knows how much i hate it. To you it might not sound like a big deal but it literally just makes me depressed, and I never want to go anywhere or go to school because people are going to ask me who i am and i don't want to say it. I don't have a middle name, so i can't use it. I don't want one either. Anyway, i then asked my dad if he would care if i changed my name when i turn 18, and he said he doesnt want me to. I told him that i would be an adult and can legally do it without permission. And he effing said that if i do he wont pay for my college. What the heII??? & He knows my mom doesn't have a lot of money and cant pay for it (they are divorced). What is his problem?!?!?!?!?!?!? I HATE HIM!!!
2007-10-18 08:23:00 · 9 answers · asked by jenni xo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I was in your shoes and felt as strongly as you do, I would not change my name exactly at 18, even though LEGALLY I could. If my father was going to pay for my college, I would go ahead and keep my name.
(College is VERY expensive in some areas and I would love to have the luxury of having my parents help pay for my education)
However, as I stated, I would keep my name until after I was done with college. In the mean time, I would create a nickname. The nickname I would come up with would be my "middle" name and tell people I prefer to be called that.
The nick name I picked would be the name I would be legally replacing my name with, if I still decided to do that when the time came. I would have a few years to get used to it, and no one can argue about a "nickname"! It is common to use a middle name as a nickname. Just don't tell other people you don't really have a middle name.
2007-10-18 09:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it's a big deal, but there ARE bigger problems, and hating him for this is a little much.
I would suggest coming up with a nickname that you like and going with that. Change your name later.
Or, you could always just do what you want, and figure your own way into college, and resent your father for the rest of your life over something that really, in the big scheme of things, doesn't make a difference.
Or... you could tell him you're too embarrassed of your name to attend college, so at 18 you'll be changing it regardless... but I wouldn't recommend following through on the "not going to college" solutions if you can avoid that.
2007-10-18 08:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Noneya Dambiz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 02:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lalala, your problem cannot be dealt with for another 3 years and anything can happen before then. You may end up changing your mind, or you dad may look at things differently. Sad part is that a lot of parents are guilty of naming their offspring before thinking of how it may affect them as they age. Best of luck and I honestly do hope that you can work out something that will be of benefit for all involved.
2007-10-18 08:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your name? Have you explained to your dad that your mother agreed to it and that it makes you uncomfortable to have this name? Do you think he will really not pay for your college because of a name change? How ridiculous is that?!
2007-10-18 08:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Becky M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell all your friends especially new ones the name you want to be known by and use it .You can have it changed legally when you are older.
Don't mention it to your dad he does not have to live with it.
2007-10-18 08:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by ann b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes your name, that's why he gave it to you. I'm sure even if you do change your name he will still help pay for college. He's just trying to get you to drop the subject by bluffing.
2007-10-18 08:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He GAVE you that name. you didn't go to him and say that you dont' like your name, you went to him and basically told him you hate everything he's ever done for you. you hate everything he ever gave you. to him that name IS you, it is a special name to him. you don't want a middle name, but you should consider one, consider keeping the name you have now as a middle name (that you wouldn't have to tell anyone) and add a first name that you like.
2007-10-18 08:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what, I PAID FOR MYSELF TO GO THROUGH SCHOOL! if u want things your way you need to accept the consequences, think long and hard about ur choices.
2007-10-18 08:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋