Marry at 20 or marry at 30?

Question

What are advantages and disadvantages to both?

Answer 1

Advantages at 20 include having children early in life and watching them grow and being active in their live. Disadvantages at this age are lack of maturity, unable to travel and see the world before setting down, possibility of losing friends as your priorities should change after marriage.\

Advantages at 30 include having the additional 10 years of life experience to bring into a union. Still young enough to have children and enjoy their development, more settled into a career, and friends are also mostly married by that age.
Disadvantages of marring at 30 might be less willing to change lifestyle.

Answer 2

Hi,

The real answer is whenever you have a good grasp of who you are and what you want in life.

For some, they may discover who they are by the age of 20, but for most people it's around 24 or 25. Although I've met some that are hitting 60 that are still oblivious.

In general I think people are still growing and changing at 20, on the edge of being honest with themselves but still a bit in denial.

I know that I personally didn't want to accept my faults (the 1 or 2 I have - LOL) until around 22 or 23.

I think it's more important to marry when you find someone you "love", not someone you are "in love" with, because all too frequently people fall out of what they fell into. When you find the person you love, you have learned that it's something that takes effort, but well worth the work.

Answer 3

I say marry at 20 and you probably marry your first true love. However there's still a lot of growing up to do, and that needs to be understood. You're not as educated as you could be, book wise and world wise. You have to understand you'll change, and vow to remain committed to the person you married at 20 because I can promise you that person will be different at 30. But it is fun growing up together.
Marry at 30 and you're more established, have had more heartbreak, are more financially independent and educated. People who marry older have lower divorce rates, as well. However, you may want to have children younger, or what if you find the one you want to marry sooner? There's a lot of advantages and disadvantages to both.
I'm 23 and my fiance is almost 25, we've both been out of college for awhile (graduated, not dropped out), are planning on getting our masters, and have known each other for 3 years. We've gotten to grow up together a bit, and seen each other change and like what we see. I like the somewhere inbetween 20 and 30 age, personally. :-D

Answer 4

Arizona Gal: I'm not old!!! :-)

I'm 30, and I'll be getting married in a few months. It's a perfect time in my life to get married. I'm established financially and professionally, and I've gotten all the adolescent identity-searching and such out of my system. however, I am a *long* way from being boring. My fiance is in his 30's as well, and is also very stable. We have a house, a dog, and good jobs. We don't have to worry about so many things that we would have dealt with even 5 or 6 years ago.

There's no magic age - just whatever works for you. People who marry younger are far more likely to split up than those who wait.

Answer 5

If you marry at age 20- then you will get your kids out of the house in your 40's. YAY! But then you and your spouse will still be growing up- changing- evolving into your adult self. Marriage is harder than anyone will tell you. And it will be even harder if you are immature.

If you marry at age 30- then you will have all of your 20's to be selfish! To do what you want to do! To finish college- experience Vegas as should be experienced- travel the world- get your career going. Don't get me wrong- marriage is still going to be hard in your 30's. But you may be able to bring along some wisdom- some money- and some maturity.

However- you'll know when the time is right- whatever age that is.

Answer 6

Split the difference and go for 25. I would recommend waiting a few years after 20. So much happens at this time in your life, I would hate if you missed out because you were married. Enjoy being young and when you are ready to be married, jump in with both feet. Good luck!

Answer 7

GOOD QUESTION..THIS IS WHY LIFESUCKSCUZ YOU ONLY HAVE ONE AND YOU CANT HAVE IT ALL lol

at 20..
ADVANTAGES:youre a young parent if you descide to have kids,if the marriage doesnt work out it will still be easy to meet someone new that has EVERYTHING you are looking for,you can descide to wait and have kids later in life..you dont have to rush into having kids and instead you can enjoy life together traveling w/your husband/wife and doing things you cant normally do when you have a family.
DISADVANTAGES:the single lifestyle at a young age is gone forever..no more partying w/friends or hooking up w/different people,you descide to give the young years of your life also known as the best to ONLY one person,10years down the road you might realize the person you though loved you and will NEVER hurt you has cheated on you and the marriage ends..your youth is GONE cant get it back,YOU realize what a mistake you made and that you want to be single again..problem is if you realize this after having kids and now youre stuckw/kids for the rest of your life and probably in a loveless marriage

at 30..
ADVENATAGES:you are more sure of what you want in life since you have enjoyed your youth living the single life,can still have kids,youre more mature and financially stable
DISADVANTAGES:at that age its harder to find exactly what you are looking for in a partner since you have aged and probably no longer as desireable or as attractive as you werein your 20's,you can still have kids but at this age youre more likely to lose the baby during pregnancy or maybe not be able have as many kids as you would like to have,you will be kind of an old parent,if the marriage doesnt work out it will be very hard to find someone else at a much older age,if you have already had kids and the marriage ends itwill most likely be impossible to find someone new because realistically people DONT want to deal w/other peoples heavy baggage.




ok now i am depressed lol
hope i helped!

Answer 8

Marry somewhere in between, because you want to be married a while before you have kids( you'll know each other a lot better). Being married at 30 is harder because being married for a while won't work for the kids' sake(u know?)..

Answer 9

Marry when you find the person you want to spend your life with. You might meet them by 20, maybe at 30, maybe later. Anyone who follows a plan of when to get married will surely be disappointed either by having to compromise their plan or ending up with the wrong person.

Answer 10

30. At 20 your brain isn't even fully developed. Get your post-secondary education, start on a career, live out on your own in the real world, paying rent and bills, and learning about yourself and the world. Volunteer, expand your horizons, help in the community. Learn to be a giving, wonderful person. Then you will have a lot to offer your future wife and family.