A friend of mine gave me an inviation to her wedding which is next weekend. Short notice, it is the same day as alot of Halloween parties that I have already been invited to. I was planning on going party hopping so I could make everyone happy, now I get this invite and its gonna ruin my plans.
She is pregnant and I don't want to upset her but what should I do. The wedding is in early afternoon and the reception follows right after, so would it be rude if I like left the reception super early and didn't even eat?
2007-10-18 08:06:53 · 52 answers · asked by 2shay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would be rude if you RSVP'd for food and didn't eat, but since it's that short notice, I'd imagine she already had the quantity of food arranged for the reception. Just tell her you have previous engagements - no need to be specific - and that you want to help her celebrate, so you will attend for a short time.
2007-10-18 08:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
In wedding etiquitte it is rude 2 leave the ceremony, not the reception. If u let her know ahead of time what your dilemma is, she should be just fine. If u went 2 the reception only, ate, and then left it would be rude. But going to the ceremony shows that u care about the important part versus the fun part. Just talk 2 her about it. And splurge 2 show u care. Get them an excellent wedding gift, and maybe throw in a lil something 4 the new baby. If she does get somewhat upset that u cannot be there the entire event, tell her that will will try 2 stay as long as possible. Maybe offer her a lunch date and a girls day shopping spree for the baby or new home (gift suggestion). She will be thrilled. Just make sure she wears tennies if she is gonna be on her feet all day. Or she'll be a lil grumpy.
2007-10-18 08:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by nievity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not rude if you left early. But invitations usually go out about a month or so before the wedding. If you're getting invited on such short notice, then they either just planned a quickie wedding, or there wasn't enough room at the hall to invite everyone, so when the replies came back, space became available. Most people don't stay until the reception is over anyways. Do what needs to be done, then explain that you had plans scheduled before you received the invitation. They will not be upset. Have fun.
2007-10-18 08:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not even rude to skip the reception all together. The wedding is the important part. That's what the couple really wants guests to share with them. However, I wouldn't let her know why you are cutting your time short with her. She may be hurt that you would prefer to go to Halloween parties instead of spending the entire time at her reception. You can try to slip out without saying goodbye, the couple will be so busy with all the guests, dancing, etc. that they probably won't notice you're gone. But if your absence is noticed, you can just explain that you had prior engagement for the evening. You don't need to explain any further than that.
2007-10-18 12:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by ds37x 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not even eating would probably be a slight problem. I guess it really depends on how good of friends you are and I am assuming you are not in the wedding party....if you were than no way could you leave early. I just got married 2 months ago and people left early, but after they ate and I didnt have a problem with that, if they didnt want to party up with everyone there until the wee hours of the morning that was up to them. But a really good friend of mine who I was contemplating have stand up in my wedding came to the ceremony and didn't even show for the reception at all which made me pretty upset, especially since I got the impression he would show with his spouse. You have to understand that when you are invited to a wedding someone is paying for your meal so if you sneak out of there without eating your $12-25 meal would go to waste...not cool.
2007-10-18 08:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by bgkob 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wedding was planned quickly. We found out I was pregnant and moved our date up and were married a month later. My two sisters had play tickets so they didn't come to the wedding and showed up at the reception way after dinner.
I was really disappointed in them. There will be many more Halloweens and parties but only one wedding for this couple.
I'd advise staying at least an hour after the meal.
2007-10-18 08:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Karrose 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Considering your invitation was short notice, I feel as long as you are honest with your friend and explain that you had already been invited to a party before you knew of her wedding, Im sure she will be fine.
It would be very bad manners not to eat, what's the hurry.
Please be honest though and don't lie to her. She'll be able to except that you have had previous engagement, but she wouldn't except the fact that you have lied to her.
Make sure that the time you have with her at the wedding is quality time, really be supportive to her and offer her reasurance. Maybe suggest you and she have a meal out together and look at the wedding photos .
2007-10-18 08:34:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have a previous engagement to go to. (Do not tell her you are going party hopping rather then attending her full wedding) Tell her you are looking forward to the ceremony and want to see her make her grand entrance and her and her new husbands first dance. Just explain that unfortunately you will not be able to stay. If she know she will not pay for a dinner for you or reserve a seat. You can pop in and pop out. Most likely your friend will be way too busy to notice anyway but just apologize and say you would love to be there but you have a previous engagement you cant get out of. Good luck!
2007-10-18 08:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are present at the ceremony, had a chance to give her your best wishes face to face, then an early exit from the reception would be fine. She's a friend, not close family, and you're not a part of the wedding party itself.
2007-10-18 08:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Larry V 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's rude to RSVP that you will be attending the reception than leave before eating. Since she invited you on such a short notice she might be expecting a lot of no's. Let her know that you are happy that she's getting married, but you can't stay for the reception.
2007-10-18 15:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jill 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it wouldn't be rude, go to the reception to say that you went, and after a bit tell her that you have other plans but that you wanted to go and support her. She should understand, considering that she gave you short notice and things do come up sometimes! At least give her the courtesy to go to the reception for a bit to show that you DO care about her....!!
2007-10-18 08:11:31 · answer #11 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋