My mom and I have been having this really bad fight. My dad isn't home he's on a business trip. Lately, we have been having stupid arguments over everything and turning into fights. I don't know what to do anymore. She'll say a mean comment to me and I tell her I hate her. I only say it because that way I can get my anger out. Then I get really mad at her because she dosen't want to be nice. I now she can be, but for some reason she doesn't want to be. Now we are both mad at each other, I try to tell I am sorry and if we can start new. But, she is oo mad she ignores me and says I have pysciatric problems,which i don't. I really don't know what to do anymore, or what I am doing wrong. Please help me. How can I break the ice of out argument and start new and get her to be nice? Please help me....I just don't know what to do anymore. I so desperately want to be friends and just get along.
2007-10-18
07:53:29
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Now my mom is calling a physciatrist because she thinks I supposedly have problems!!! She's calling right now as I speak!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She is purposly calling th physiciatrist in front of my face!!! UUUUUUHHHHHHHHH!!!! Im sorry and I know I shouldn't say this, but I REALLY hate her!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-18
08:20:01 ·
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A sure way to keep the animosity going is to tell your mother that you hate her(or vice versa).Any kind of personal criticism or accusation will keep the anger ffestering. I don't know if this will work as I don't know either of you, but I would try talking to her when you have calmed down: rather than blaming her I would begin by telling het that I love her and that these fights make me feel very sad and very unhappy. Ask her how she feels, and what is making her so unhappy that she gets so mad. It could be nothing to do with you: it could be that your father is away on a trip(how often?). If the situation remains unbearable and if your school has a counseller availble, I would speak to them In such case they often call in the family and act as a mediator. Take care, and good luck
2007-10-18 08:20:57
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answered by D 2
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Stop telling her that you hate her. My children have never done that and I would not tolerate it. Maybe that is why she thinks you have problems. Let this go for now. She will stop being mad eventually. When she does tell her then that you are sorry and that you don't want to fight. You can have disagreements without it turning into a screaming match. That is not good for anyone and it just makes everything worse. Why is she saying mean things to you? I would call her on it when she does. She is suppose to be the adult. It is hard to answer with out knowing what she says and if this is how it all starts. Try not to tell her that you hate her anymore and see if that helps.
2007-10-18 15:06:04
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answered by kim h 7
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I would write her a letter or a card after you both cool off. Tell her your sorry and tell her you want to be freinds and just get along.
Give her a hug and tell her you love her. She has to come around and apologize to you as well. Then concentrate on keeping a good relationship with her. Don't give up though be brave and open your heart to her. Try to do something nice for her like helping her around the house to show you appreciate her. good luck.
2007-10-18 15:14:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes, I can understand why you hate her, but perhaps you can see why it's unwise to say it to her.
It made things worse, didn't it?
You can't get her to be nice; you'll have to wait until she cools down.
In the furture, don't argue back, or say hurtful things to her. It just makes everything worse.
If she send you for psychiatric help, that might be a good thing; she sounds like an abusive parent, and a professional can help you learn how to cope with this; they might even encourage her to seek professional help.
2007-10-18 18:51:18
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answered by tehabwa 7
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just try and talk to her. you probably really hurt her feelings when you said you hated her. if she ignores just keep talking anyway. trust me she is listening even if she doesnt look like she is. talk calmly and rationally to her. tell her whats on your mind and how you are sorry about what you said and how you didnt mean it. try to keep from argueing. i know easier said than done. but do try and dont give up. just keep talking to her and try doing something nice to show that you really are sorry. it could be anything as small as giving her a hug or something like doing the dishes, or cleaning the living room. just do something nice to show her you truely are sorry.
2007-10-18 15:31:56
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answered by rebletomboy 2
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give her time to come around. If she is still mad its not a good time to be friendly with her.
The next time you feel a fight coming on just her am going to my room to read a book.
Tell her you love her maybe she miss your DAD too.
2007-10-18 15:10:27
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answered by God Fire 4
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the "I hate you" comment really hurt her
been there
just give her time she can't stay madd forever i hope not anyway maybe write her a letter or an email
and let her open it when your not around dont worry so much
she loves you and things will work out even if right now they don't seem to be.
2007-10-18 15:10:03
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answered by summerbliss 3
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it's typical for moms and daughters to fight like cats and dogs, my daughter will say something mean to me and it gets me mad and i say something back and we are like mad forever, mad more at the words not at her really, eventually you will grow out of it and your mom will be your best friend!
2007-10-18 15:09:25
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answered by gurlynmgurl 4
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my mom calls me a brat and makes up lies about everthing but i always ingor her u should try ingnoring her
2007-10-18 15:04:47
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answered by daddysangle4ever111 2
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