My Dad and I do NOT get along. As far as I'm concerned he doesnt love me. Yesterday he kicked me out of his house so he could be able to have a "normal dating life" and move to another state. I could definitly be a better daughter and I feel guilty for not approving of his dating as much as I could.
He is a therapist, but he says stuff that is so hurtful. He always calls me a liar and when he makes me cry he tells me to shut up and go to my room, sometimes for the rest of the night. One day I told him I wanted therapy because I think I'm depressed and he refused saying I'm not depressed and have such good life and i dont know what deppresion is. I think I want to live with my mom and now my Dad wants me back. I'm having trouble saying no because when my sister cut off her relationship with my dad My dad manipulated his family (who I am VERY close to) into thinking she has mental problems. I dont want that to happen. What do I do?
2007-10-18 07:32:50 · 10 answers · asked by Emily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to try living with your mom...most therapist are in denial themselves (and a little mentally ill...you'd be too if you sat and listened to others problems all day)
don't worry about standing up to him, your not an adult yet...save it for later
2007-10-18 07:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by queenb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for advice about hypnosis. This will get the discussion going. He will appreciate being asked for help, because you are recognizing him as an authority figure, and feeding his ego. As the discussion progresses, ask him how associations are formed in the mind. use non-threatening non-specific non-personal examples. Ask hypothetical questions about made-up friends, that are similar to some of your issues, like you mentioned above. Pay attention to the answers, and do some reading on hypnosis afterwards. try not to resolve all the problems at once, just get the disucssions started in a non-confrontational way and then you can work together over time to a full resoloution. Ask his opinion of a religion if all else fails, seeking advice on which one you should go to. The shock value will help to open him up to showing that he really does care.
2007-10-18 15:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. BlinK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your well being, you need to live with someone else. If things are ok at Moms, then stay there but keep in close contact with Dads family. If things are not the maybe a Grandparent, Aunt or Uncle will let you stay with them.
Sorry but it sounds like your Dad needs help. I would not move back in until he gets it.
2007-10-18 15:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by witchywish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go and live with your mother. Sooner or later his family is going to know that it is him. How can the not if two of his daughters cut him out of their lives? You need to get out of there for your own sanity and if your family takes his side then let them. If you are really close to them then they should know you better than that. Don't let what other people do or how they are going to react dictate what you do in your life. You need a stable home and some security and you are not getting that with him. Have you told your mom any of this? If not maybe you should. She should tell him that you are coming to live with her and then do it. It is illegal to throw a minor out of there home where I live. (Ohio) The man is warped. He needs a normal dating life? He can't have that with you around? You are at a stressful age anyway and you don't need all of this. I hope you tell your mother and go and live with her. Good luck you honey.
2007-10-18 14:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest to you.. You need to tell him how you feel however hard it may be it needs to be done. As far as him calling you names and all that, he dose that because he don't know how to handle you for the most part. You should'nt "cut" him off forever. You should however take some time away from him, and give him space, also ask your mom why they broke it off, and why shes not with him anymore. He sounds kinda like a control freak to tell you the truth. I hope that I've helped you if you need anymore advise please feel free to contact me.
Think about IT
2007-10-18 14:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Wonderful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is a therapist that needs therapy. How can he expect for you to feel if he kicked you out to begin his dating life- he chose other women over his own daughter, you shouldnt put up with his behavior and stand your ground.
2007-10-18 14:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it sounds like living with your dad is very harmfull, you need to let your mother know in advance what is going on and warn her that your worried he might pull the same bs with you as he did with your sister. Don't give into him at all, saty with your mom, but let him know why you are doing so and let that be that
2007-10-18 14:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dad needs a sesion with himself
2007-10-18 14:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by smars442002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your mental health, live with your mom. He kicked you out for a reason. Remind him of it, and drop it. You don't need to argue.
2007-10-18 14:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back hander him,
Ken barlow styley!
2007-10-18 14:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋