adoption...?

Question

im looking for an online adoption support group for the family members that gave the bay up for adoption


if you have any references please tell me or any sites that offer where to get support for the adoption healing process

thanks so much

-alison

Answer 1

I would try adoption crossroads or originsUSA

Answer 2

I agree with the link to adoption.com. I think that it would be more benificial for the birthparents to have contact with people in person, like a local center for adoption/birthparents that provide support groups, rather than an online community. However, the internet still is a good option.

Answer 3

Try adoption.com. There are forums for birth parents - they can read other people's stories, and add their own. They can also read stories from adoptive families about how wonderful their lives have been made thanks to an unselfish birth parent, as well as ways to find birth children later.

Best of luck. As an adoptive parent, I cherish and appreciate my children's birth parents. They gave my children their beautiful smiles and talent - we keep in touch in varying degrees with their birth parents (3 different families). Although ours is a very different story (we were a foster home and these children were abused), we still cherish our children, and appreciate their birthparents for everything they could do for them.

Here's a poem we used for our adoption announcements:
LEGACY OF AN ADOPTED CHILD (Author Unknown)
Once there were two women who never knew each other.
One you do not remember, the other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make yours one:
One became your guilding star, then other became your sun.
The first gave you life, and the second taught you to live in it.
The first gave you a need for love, and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent, the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.
One gave you up - it was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.
And now you ask me through your tears,
the age old questions through the years:
Heredity or Environment, which are you a product of?
Neither ny darling, neither,
JUST TWO DIFFERENT KINDS OF LOVE.

Hope this brings you and the child's family some comfort.

Answer 4

I'm working on starting my own support group which I plan to have meetings at my home until we need a bigger space. In my area Central west coast of Florida, there are no such support groups set up. You want to consider starting your own support group. If you find any online suport groups please let me at [e-mail]

Answer 5

I agree with the person who suggested OriginsUSA. But you should know and understand that the healing process is lifelong. People who have experienced losses due to adoption (loss of their child, loss of one's parents, family, identity, roots, etc.) never get over it. If they're lucky, they learn how to cope with it. They learn how to manage their relationships and day-to-day lives. If they're lucky.

I lost my natural mother after 8 years in reunion. Losing me literally killed her. It also hurt the boys she later raised. Losing my mother at birth very nearly killed me. Peer support AND quality therapy will help the person to learn to cope.

Answer 6

http://www.soulofadoption.com

(Click on the forums link)

There are also quite a few of us first moms (moms who relinquished children) who blog. Search Wordpress under the tag "Adoption."

((((((((Hugs))))))))

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just so incredibly sorry.

Answer 7

Yahoo groups probably has a group like you are looking for.

Answer 8

hey Alison I would check with your local adoption agencies first they can get you on the road that you need to go..just look in the phone book and call them.If you are looking for your parents they will tell you how to follow that lead..also I dont know if your can afford it but a private investagator really know how to find these leads too...good luck