My fiances grandfather recently passed 3 weeks before our wedding. We would like to mention him in our program but I don't know how to do it. HAs anyone ever done this before? If so, what did you say?
2007-10-18 07:02:16 · 12 answers · asked by Merry Mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
At the bottom of our program we had,
The flowers on the alter today are in memory of our grandparents who could not be here today but are with us in spirit.
We each only had one grandfather and one grandmother coming and they were mentioned in the seating of the mothers and grandmothers as well, but we liked it better than a list of names, especially since my side my grandmother is not deceased but is in no condition to come. So "who could not be here today" suited.
Or the soloist--if you are having a song--you could put under the song title.............................soloist
this song is in memory of the groom's grandfather
It was a very small thing, without being a focal point in the ceremony like lighting a candle or putting a picture on the alter. However, as his grandfather so recently passed, perhaps you might want to include a photograph. If you have pedestals that you are putting a flower on, put a framed picture of his grandfather.
My good friend got married a couple years ago. Both her mother and the groom's mother died many years ago but the wedding was bringing back a lot of memories. They both send in similar style pictures to one of those online sites that turns a photo into a canvas and had both portraits side by side as you entered the reception (at the start of the receiving line). It was a small way of honoring them and most people thought it was very sweet.
2007-10-18 07:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the officiant make a dedication during the Family Acknowledgement...basically just saying that the bride and groom want to take the time to thank everyone for their love and support and also want to take a moment to remember those loved ones that are here in spirit and in everyones hearts and mention the deceased person name and have everyone say a prayer or have a moment of silent rememberance.
For the programs you can put a poem or a prayer on the back page as a dedication to your fiances grandfather.
2007-10-18 16:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by magnadudl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they often mention those who are with us today and those who could no longer join us. Some leave a special flower on the alter for a deceased person at the same time they are giving flowers to the parents. If it was recent it could be mentioned in the wedding program and perhaps a special song/hymn played during the service to honor them.
2007-10-18 14:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I work as a secretary at a Lutheran Church and I have typed up many church programs.
We usually list it as:
With us in Spirit:
[grandfather's name]
Some people even make a special time DURING the ceremony to light a candle in memory of deceased loved ones, but that is not necessary. Simply listing his name is fine also.
Good luck!
2007-10-18 14:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am doing this in my program. What I am doing is making the program normal. Then I am going to type up a poem for my dad and put it on a piece of vellum or real thin paper and insert it in the middle of the program. That way it is not on the program and it does not take up that much space, but you have a memorable piece for him too.
I think it is a great way to remember someone at your wedding.
2007-10-18 14:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put anything in the program. Your fiance can mention him when he gives the thank yous at the reception program.
2007-10-19 10:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends mom died almost a year before they got married so what they did was got flowers for the altar and on the wedding program said these flowers at the altar are dedicated to the grooms mom in her memory. or on your wedding program you may want to say a note of thanks of what your grandfather meant to you. I am deeply truly sorry for the loss of your grandpa my husbands grandpa died over a year ago and we miss him so much.
2007-10-18 14:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We mentioned on the back of our programs that the flowers on the altar were in memory of those that could not be with us today. That way it is dedicated to him, but chances are it will not make anyone break out in tears when they are reading it. You want to remember those that are important to you on your wedding day, but you do not want a day of mourning.
2007-10-18 14:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by vaya 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
a note on the back saying you wish he was here, he will be missed, etc. maybe the obituary if people from the wedding didnt go to the funeral. a moment of silence during the ceremony wouldnt hurt either. something short and sweet. it is your happy, special day. ive also seen them listed in the program as deceased and missed, etc.
2007-10-18 14:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a short sentence in the program would be nice. Also I am going to have ribbon with the names of close relatives that have passed wrapped about my bouquet. Its a nice touch to have them close with you on your special day.
2007-10-18 14:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by ttc #2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋