Unreasonable recruiter or just me?

Question

Basically ive been waiting like 4 weeks for a waiver for simple possession of marijuana that happened 8 years ago to join the army. Well ive been planning to goto a college football game for like 2 weeks and have saved all my money just to be able to do so, and i really only have enough to get me there and back + food, well magically now the waiver has come through and i have to drive like 30 minutes to get to my recruiter the day i get back...well i doubt ill have the gas to get there and back and when asked if I could just be picked up he said "your not 16 anymore, when we tell you when and where, you have to be there" i mean what the heck do they do for guys that dont even have cars? I told him i'd try to save some gas which i dont think i can. I havent got a job yet because everyday my recruiter would call and say "I think its just gonna be one more day" and so on....this pisses me off, my recruiting station has the lowest numbers in the state also.

btw, im not in the military yet, i havent signed a contract...I just figured since im going into th emilitary i might as well have a little fun before i head out...

Answer 1

A couple of things:

(1) Be thankful that the Army is willing to take you. Simple possession of marijuana is an automatic disqualifier for enlistment in the Air Force -- and my colleagues in the Navy tell me you'd be barred from joining the Navy or the Marine Corps as well.

(2) The wait for the waiver is typical. Everything is "hurry up and wait" in the military. It's all a part of wearing the uniform, so if you intend to wear an Army uniform for at least the next two years you'd better get used to it.

(3) Part of being an adult is making choices. What's more important to you -- one afternoon watching a college football game or getting on with a career that could benefit you for the rest of your life? And why should someone pick you up so you can go see the recruiter? If joining the Army means that much to you, then you should do whatever it takes to get in and be a successful soldier. Makes me question whether you have what it takes to be a member of the Armed Forces.

BOTTOM LINE: Are you an adult or a child? If you're a child, go play with your friends at the football game and let the chips fall where they may. If you're an adult, get your priorities in order and do what you need to do to get into the Army. The football game is one afternoon out of your life, but joining the military will shape the rest of your life. Is this one a no-brainer or is it just me?

Answer 2

Not to be offensive, I'll give you a straight up objective answer. Here's the question that runs through my mind at the exact second you mention asking your recruiter to come and pick you up:

Does this person have a problem with problem solving and finding his own resources? Is he going to need the constant babysitting of his supervisers in order to get any difficult taskers done? Why is a simple task (get from point A to point B) so difficult for this person?

It's not a matter of the money. Find a way to get there. If that means you eat light on the trip to the college game, or that you miss the college game, oh well. Have a friend drive you there. If you want to be in the military, show a little bit of that determination and problem solving skills that the military needs in it's members. And if you miss the game, oh well. There'll be plenty of opportunities to go to all kinds of college games in the future.

Answer 3

there trying to see how motivated you are to join the way i see it you have to choice you didnt sign a contract yet so
A you can forget the game and go to the recruiters office

B YOU CAN CALL THE RECRUITER BACK EXPLAIN TO THE RECRUITER YOU ARE ON A LIMITED INCOME AND CANT MAKE IT you didnt sign a contract yet so you can say look im sorry i dont have the gas to get there. i change my mind then. if you cant even give me a ride yeah he will be mad but so what believe me he wants to seal the deal just as bad as you do if you tell him that u cant get there he will come and get you

Answer 4

It's not the recruiter. The waiver must be sent to recruiting command, to be reviewed by a board of officers, approved or disproved. That review board only convenes 1 time a month, hence it may take 45 plus days to get the determination on your waiver request.

Answer 5

If you are angry at his high handed way of dealing with you, don't sign up. Every day in uniform is way worse and boot camp is beyond belief. I am not military, but hubby just got out after 20 years and I have seen and heard all about it. The military just doesn't care about excuses. If you waited this long for a waiver, it must be important to you. Trust me, if you join up, they don['t let you say..."gee, I have something more fun to do than get shot at, I think I will skip patrol today." or even " I don't feel like doing paperwork (painting, peeling potatoes or whatever your assignment is) so I want to stay home and watch TV." You can't even call in sick, you have to show up and go to sick call, then they decide if you work or go home. And if you go home, you better not get caught anywhere but home. If this sounds too tough, find a different career.

Answer 6

Ok i take advantage of to be a marine so i understand how it's to be long past at all times. Your husbands task goes to be one of the vital time ingesting jobs the marine corps has to present. I imply he needs to be at the grind 24/7 simply to satisfy quota and likewise "Stand out" undoubtedly if he is a recruiter he is no less than a Sergeant and is most often considering making that is profession. if that's the case sure doing this task goes to take alot clear of his household time. I imply do not get me mistaken 4am mobilephone calls are bothering, however they're his coverage that the humans he took to mets are becoming all their paper paintings performed and they are well to head. i do not believe you're being unreasonable, however i would not take all of it out on him both. The corps may be very traumatic and also you hav to be certain he makes time for you and the children too. simply appreciate he is doing this for the "household" so something he does he most often has you in brain whilst he is doing it.

Answer 7

Im sorry, but this is just going to be the beginning of "we tell you when and where and you be there." and honestly, if you don't appriciate that, you may want to think again about your military career. Because once you get in, if you are not where they say you have to be, your not just looking at losing a job, they can make your whole life come crumbling down around your ears.

Answer 8

You think you're going to drive to the recruiting station, park your car, and NOT have a parking ticket when you get out of the service, years later?

Hell, you won't be able to park within a half-mile, because all the parking spaces will be filled with the cars of *other* recruits.

If you want some guidance in this matter, take a look at the bible. The ten commandments is the only part that was written by God. First of all, it starts out that you should have no other Gods before you, including the US military; what God says, goes. Then you drop down a few commandments and you read, "Thou shalt not kill."

It'd be a real bummer, wouldn't it, to die in battle, and then spend eternity in hell for killing? And it's not like we're actually *accomplishing* anything. Sunni, Shiite, and Kurd are busy trying to kill each other, and they're all trying to kill us for interfering in their fun. And the white house theory is that if we ship you overseas, to give them more convenient target, they won't bother coming over here to get the more inconvenient targets.

If you think the recruiter is being unreasonable, you're not going to like military life. He's being unreasonable on purpose. He's looking for really stupid people, because they make good targets, and if you pass this test, you qualify.

Answer 9

You are going to have a miserable time in the military if you think they should be reasonable. The point is that they are rigid--you are entering the biggest beaurocracy in the world.

Tip for you, get used to taking orders. Ask someone to loan you some cash for gas--or take the bus. The military will be great for you, and you will come out better than when you went in.

Answer 10

it is YOUR Responsibility to make it happen, NOT the recruiters.

now you have a choice: skip the football game and save the gas for the trip to MEPS, or place your priorities elsewhere and show the recruiter you really don't want in after all.