My daughter is so aggressive!?

Question

She is 13 months old now, but she knows most of the things we say or tell her. But she starts to hit someone or hit something or throw thing near her whenever she is not allowed to do something or she resents. I almost work outside, I try my best to get close to her to teach and guide her but she always drives me crazy. How can I do to stop her such behaviours. ( she spends most of time at home with her grandmom and two cousins (4 and 6 years old- They are so naughty))
Besides, she doesn't care her eating, she can eat everything (small amounts) except for her food. She keeps food in her mouth for hours( she's got 7 teeth)
What should I do for my baby?
Thanks for your help

Answer 1

Most kids in day care are aggressive, and yes she is in day care even though she stays with her grandmother. She has to fight for her rights and her toys when she is there. If you put her in another day care, I don't think it will stop.

You just need to keep doing what you are doing and be consistent. One thing is that the 4 and 6 year old cousins are probably acting normal and they are not as naughty as you think. Don't get in one of those ideas, that my child would not have done that unless your child taught it to me. She may be the leader and are teaching them the bad habits. Yes at that age.

Sit down and talk with the grand-mom. Talk to her about giving all three of them a little more discipline. What do their parents think about all of this?

About her eating, take the food from her mouth. If she keeps it in her mouth that long, she could get choked. One thing that might break that little habit. Is feed her at a table, or in a high chair. She can not leave the table or get out of the high chair until she has eat and swallowed everything.

Good luck, I am so glad mine or grown and gone.

Answer 2

Obviously Ditch her food. Most people will whine it's good for her, but Baby Food is unhealthy because of what is put into it... besides all the sugar.

She may be frustrated because she cannot communicate as well as she would like to. You may try to give her blocks or flash cards with pictures. I was very frustrated when I was little because people didn't understand me and with my mouth and how small my lungs were it was exhausting to talk. So maybe she is frustrated she can't communicate well enough as she would like to or atleast you are not understanding her. She might like if you tell her new words from time to time and their definition.

On top of being Naughty (which she will absorb) are her cousins boys (and there for allowed to be physical)? Or are her Cousins girls (and can treat her like a doll)? Or is one a boy and one a girl? (Which way then? Probably would be a girl in that case as the oldest).

All that naughty behavior transfers. My cousin is haveing that problem and it doesn't seem to get through to her. Our evil cousins come around and her son goes wild. It's a combo of mimicing behavior and being told what to do by the older kids.

Answer 3

My3boys is right. This is the time to set the stage for what is right and what is wrong. She must be held to a certain standard. Chewing food for hours is not acceptable. If she can't eat like a normal person she must spit it out and have something to eat later. The aggressive behavior calls for discipline. She can lose privileges just like and older child. Toys, trips to the park, play dates. are earned privileges.

My mother watched my daughter for about a year and let her eat and do anything she wanted. When I arrived home from work, she was a menace. I had to make difficult decisions. Day care was it and she was kicked out of the first one due to aggressive behavior. She soon learned that there was no more play time with others unless she straightened up.

Answer 4

I agree with MyThreeBoys. I think you just need to continue doing what you are doing and stay consistent. If something is a no-no at home, it's a no-no everywhere else. It will get better. If you think there may be an underlying medical reason, you can always bring up the behavior with your daughter's doctor next time you see him/her.
My daughter was 2 1/2 when I sent her to day care 6 hours a day. She would get so anxious that she actually bit other kids. I was embarrassed, but I can't "punish" her hours after she does something. We suspected Autism, since my son has it. But now we just think it's run-of-the-mill anxiety or possibly Bi-Polar (I'm bi-polar).

Hopefully your daughter will catch on soon and start being more "civilized", but this kind of behavior isn't out of the ordinary, and it is likely just a phase. A couple of sites below might help you as well.

Answer 5

Hi,Been there.I found that if you can ignore the bad behaviour(not easy when you`re out plus you get the ignorant glares from people who don`t understand).Praise any good behaviour,ignore the bad.Ask her grandmum to re-enforce whatever decision you decide to do.It is difficult,as I say I`ve been there and been the one nearly tearing her hair out cos you think there`s something wrong with your child and that everyone elses child is an angel...But,beleive me,their not.I was a nursery nurse for 20 years and they all try it on.Perseverance is the only way.Good luck..Don`t give up..ask other mums what they do,you`ll be surprised how many others are in the same situation

Answer 6

Don't let her drive you crazy. Remember, you are in control. Take a breather when you must. It is possible that since she spends most of her time with grandma that she probably gets to do much of what she wants there. That has a MAJOR influence on her life as she is only in the very early developmental stages. You may want to consider a career change. It is something I recently had to do. It was very scary but it solved the current problem. If you don't intervene now, you may create a monster......

Answer 7

This is normal behaviour for a child her age. Teaching her not to do this is exactly what you need to do, and it sounds like you're doing it.

She can understand some of the things you say to her now, but only in a simple way...she doesn't have the verbal ability to tell you she's frustrated, so this is her way of telling you.

Normal...just keep up the reinforcement on your end.

Answer 8

She needs some agency discipline. She needs a robust lengthy confusing spanking with a hairbrush. no longer something incorrect with spanking a lady that age. Our daughter is 16 and nonetheless receives her butt whooped by technique of her dad. women are by no skill too previous for a spanking. Too undesirable her dad isn't contained in the picture. feels like she needs a good male pressure in her existence to education guide and maximum ideal her. If my husband become at your living house, she be over his knee getting her butt blistered till she couldn't sit down

Answer 9

Put her in a structured day care situation. It will help her overcome these issues. Better nip it in the bud now, before it is time for her to go to school.

Answer 10

Find out what a naughty spot is. Don't give anything but healthy snacks