Well, next year I'm going to college. All my life, it was a general truth that I'm going to a college near where I live. But right now, I feel as if I want to be on my own feet, to finally start living independently; I feel that I want a new start, new everything. I wanna get away from a lot of stuff and people that I'm gonna be stuck with if i go to the college near home.
So, I'm seriously thinking about going to this college far away from home, as in an 8-hour train ride.
From how I know my parents, they're gonna take it bad. Am I selfish for wanting this?
2007-10-18 06:29:58 · 5 answers · asked by Lyla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, you aren't selfish .... but you might want to take a few things into consideration before making such a giant leap.
My daughter chose a college away from home her first year. She wanted to spread her wings, get away from a relationship that had gone bad, and generally be more independent. It was very hard for me, as her mother, to walk away the day we dropped her off. I cried all the way home.
Everything went fine the first two months. Then, our daughter got very sick -- flu. She pushed herself and pushed herself, continued to tell us she was alright, but she was so sick. When I found out, I wanted to bring her home, but she refused.
To make a long story short, when school finished in the spring, our daughter came home for the summer. She enrolled in a school closer to home the next fall. After a few years, she confessed to me that going away was a mistake. She was very homesick, and too proud to admit it.
Before you decide on a school so far away, take a step back, look very carefully at your situation, and make your decision wisely.
2007-10-18 06:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by tracy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not selfish for wanting to grow up honey. Your going to college and I'm sure your parents will adapt once your gone for awhile. You have to do what you want in life and your old enough to make your own decisions. Just let your parents know that you love them and promise to stay in touch with them on a regular basis because the concern they have is probably more worry about you being okay than anything else. Also, have your folks come up and check the college out with you (this should make them feel more secure).
2007-10-18 06:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you only get 100 miles or 2 hours away from home, you will be away, surrounded by different people, and living at least partly independently.
but if you want to be farther away, it is OK.
It would help if there was something at the school having to do with your major, but, even if it isn't, being 8 hours away is OK, not selfish. It is just making your own decision.
2007-10-18 06:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going away to college is a very good learning
and maturing experience.
You get to be on your own in a protected
environment where your inevitable mistakes
won't be too costly or dangerous.
The downside is that it's likely to be more
expensive to your folks. If they can afford it,
it's a good thing.
2007-10-18 06:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course ur not selfish.. wat u need to do is to explain to them y u choose the college that is further...tell them why is it better for u to study far from ur family..
2007-10-18 06:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by asyraff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋