ok...it sounds crazy and i know it...actually we both do...but after talking for 2 months...and yes i mean just talking...about everything...he wants to marry me...and i want it to...are we out of our minds?do you believe in soulmates?i didnt but now i think i do
2007-10-18 06:27:06 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say, go for it. Men now a days wait longer to get married and it does not mean they are gay as one of the replies so tactfully put it. I think if he waited this long to marry, he is making a smart decision unlike some people who marry at 19 or even younger and are divorced now. He knows what he wants, now you just have to make sure you know what you want and if it truly is to marry him than go for it and enjoy life with your soul mate.
Good luck!
2007-10-18 06:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by anna_90242 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are a mature 25 year old ready to settle down... and you feel that you've gotten all of your crazy youth days out of you, then I say go for it. There are people with bigger age gaps who make it work.
However, only 2 months isn't a long time. If you two want to get married, I would say maybe have a long engagement (at least a year). I know what it's like to be in love and anxious... both of you probably feel like you don't want to wait, but forever is a long enough time that waiting a bit may be worth it for you in the long run. Just a suggestion.
I wouldn't worry about the age difference though, again, as long as you're ready to settle down. I wish you all the luck in the world though.
2007-10-18 06:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by NowayJose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you both believe it's right, you should go for it...
There's no law saying how big an age gap should be for marriage, and certainly none in how quick you're allowed to marry someone within a certain time of meeting them.
Think of it this way, if you don't take this oppurtunity, what if another one doesn't come along for another 10, 20 or 30+ years.
I missed an oppurtunity to be with a girl I really liked, all because I was a bit too hesitant.
If you have it, I say hold on to it.
2007-10-18 06:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by ryzisle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well......... you're both adults, but 11 years
is a pretty big gap. You'll likely do a bit more
growing in the next 5 years than he will.
If you want to continue to explore the relationship,
by all means go ahead.
If you are thinking about getting married after
knowing him for only 2 Months, ..
Honey, you are out of your mind!
2007-10-18 07:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see a problem with the age, I'm 23 and my fiance is 47 and we get a long better than anyone! We love eachother very much, age doesnt matter. Marriage though, I believe that you trully love eachother but I think the best thing to do would be to be engaged for about a year. As long as you are together anyway, whats the difference, just dont rush into the marriage thing. Good Luck!
2007-10-18 06:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by DJ_<3_JI 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with dating an older man but you did say 2 mths right. I think that is way to soon to be talking marrige. I would just keep going slow like you have been. Why rush a good thing? Progress slowly and good things will happen. Maybe his age is a good thing, guys nowadays dont seem to mature like before. Well i wish you the best of luck.
2007-10-18 06:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait the age isnt the problem here. Only been talking 2 months and you guys want to get married!!! Really take some time to chill. Hes not the only guy on the earth and you DEFINATELY need to get to know him way better. He could be crazy or something you never know these days!! Right people!!
2007-10-18 06:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 52 and my fiance is 30. We both love each other more than anything and will be married very soon. If you guys click and you feel it is right, then go for it. Make sure you can sense any obstacles in the way before you get married. Are there things he wants to do that you don't? Is there anything that annoys you about him? Just be as sure as you can that you guys will get along.
2007-10-18 06:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Phillip M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older you get, the more you know what you do and don't want in a spouse, so it's not surprising that he feels he can commit at this time. Honestly, I don't think guys should even think about marriage before they are in their thirties. Women mature more quickly and probably give a lot more thought to relationships and commitment than guys do. You might be ready at 25--only you know. As for your time together, there is no rule. If you want to commit and have no reservations about it, then go for it.
2007-10-18 06:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Centaur 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya'll have not been dating or in a serious relationship, and your already thinking of marriage. Slow down. Take the time to get to know each other more before you walk down the aile. If you are so sure, why are you questioning it?Plus your age difference has nothing to do with it. If you were 18, it would be a huge problem.
2007-10-18 06:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋