Im just curious, what happened to being a good, pleasant person.......
Did that go out of style?
Seriously, you all love either jerks or guys who don't have their acts together.......
2007-10-18 06:03:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meet a really nice guy he was different and understanding,caring and i said to myself how could this man be so different from other men and nothing happen between us his words were like so sweet chocolate it tasted good but in the end it was fake so nice men and mean men are men true colors the same
2007-10-18 06:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by legalizelies 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not that nice guys are out of style so much as that relationships begin with good chemistry.
Being a good, pleasant person will sure help you maintain a great relationship once you get into a relationship, but that is where a lot of the nice guys have the problems.
The thing is, don't be afraid to show a bit of interest, flirt a bit, make eye contact. Socialize over a drink or two, and don't be afraid to ask. One of the biggest mistakes nice guys often make is falling for their female friends, and then getting scared of "risking the friendship" by asking.
Try getting social with friends of your friends! Mutual acquaintances. This has the advantage that your friends will tell these new people you are a great guy, and they won't have preconceptions of you. Flirt some, talk lots. Enjoy their company and they will enjoy yours. And they will be real pleased you are a nice guy...after those electric get-to-know you dates!
2007-10-18 06:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Twilight 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think too nice is manipulative. You hide feelings, pretend you're not angry, pay attention when you'd really rather not, all to try to make something magical happen. To try to get someone to be close to you who you feel doesn't want to or can't. Which is a nearly impossible task. People kind of know when they're dealing with a real person and when they're dealing with an act.
It's true that people don't want perfect partners. People ARE capable of loving, and want to love, regular, fallible f'd up human beings. Which is what you are.
Validate your results. You're already seeing that hiding yourself to try to be something that you think the girl will be attracted to is a waste of time. So stop doing it. Being a jerk because you think that's what girls want will also bring a simmilar result. You are a lovable person without acting, believe it or not. People may not always be happy with or agree with everything you think and feel, but they CAN love you. Try to accept the very hard reality that trying to make someone like you who doesn't is almost never going to work. This may be very hard because you were really looking for something in those hard to get girls. What is it? You know there's some girls out there who want you but you just can't seem to feel for them like those "out there" girls. Try to examine why this is.
2007-10-19 15:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, come on, get a clue. The attraction women feel for a man is not a conscious choice. It is done on a subconscious level. When you act like a "nice guy" and are falling all over them, kissing their butts, etc. the woman will not feel attraction for you. Woman want a challenge. Not a lap dog. Find a friend who is good at attracting woman and have him teach you how to do it. Attracting woman is not luck, it is a skill, that even a clueless loser like you can learn.
2007-10-18 06:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by CmP 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Disagree with Brutus. I won't be happy with jerks or bad boys. I'm dating a nice guy but no nice guy is perfect they have their faults too. I'm dating one and we are fighting now and feel bad abt it. Can't imagine what could have happen if the guy i'm dating is a jerk or don't have their acts together.. probably in worse situation then i can imagine.
2007-10-18 06:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by banner 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a nice guy then hang in there! The world needs a variety of things and being nice is one of them. Trust me you haven't found a "nice girl" yet. I personally have had my share of the bad boy and now I am getting ready to marry the nice guy that I finally found.
2007-10-18 06:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by breathless_5478 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a myth. The guy I'm wiht, now living with is seroisly, teh nicest guy ever. He never, ever says anything bad abut anyone, he treats me so well, even when I come home ina stroop.
Those girls that aer with those jerks are desprete, and will seek nicestness in anyone just to get some..
2007-10-18 06:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by rockchick 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh you don not generalise please! not all girls end up with jerks who don't have their acts together. my mum chose my dad. my dad respects my mum alot and treats her like a queen... i am sure that even in your family, your mum would have decided to divorce your dad if your dad was being inconsiderate and jerk-like. perhaps for a start girls may sometimes prefer to go for the difficult catch. try n impress the hard-to-get guy.. but when it comes to long-lasting love, everyone knows full well that a nice considerate guy is worth a million pounds!
2007-10-18 06:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, you are so right. Girls blab on and on about how they want a guy who treats them right and respects them. I think they lie like that because that's what they're brought up to say. Secretly they want losers who will treat them horribly and then they can "train" into better guys. As soon as that guy becomes a nice guy, they dump him to find them another loser/idiot to mold.
2007-10-18 06:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋