Yesturday when I picked up my son from his Karate class the instructor yelled at me in front of over a dozen parents about my child's behaviour for about 5 minutes. It was so embarrassing. I know my son is a handful sometimes but the other instructor from Monday said he was improving. I left after I meekly said I would talk to my son. As soon as I got into my car I started to cry. I am a grown woman and it angered me so much to have someone yell at me especially in front of all the parents. I was thinking of just not taking my son to the classes anymore, but this is the only excersise he gets and I paid the month already. Should I say anything to him or let it go? If I say something, what should I say? I don't want to sound angry but I want him to know I will not tolerate being disrespected again. He is not even the head instructor. Should I talk to him first or go and talk to the head instructor?
2007-10-18 06:03:22 · 12 answers · asked by anna_90242 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The class is closed to parents. My son talks too much. He is impulsive even though he is at the top of his classes and scores in the 90's or above. His therapist recommended Karate to help him learn self control. I don't spank but I do take away toys and confine him to his room. Maybe other parents of impulsive kids or ADHD kids can help me and not the negative "what goes around come around".
2007-10-18 06:58:24 · update #1
If I were you...
I would immediately speak to the head instructor or owner. If he is not understanding and doesn't insist on speaking to this instructor about his behavior, then I would explain to him that you need the rest of your money back so that you can enroll your son elsewhere.
However, your son probably was being a brat (thought the instructor did not handle it properly) but he was probably at his wits end with your kid. Maybe next time you should stay throughout the class with your child to ensure that he behaves.
2007-10-18 06:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call and set up a meeting with both him and the head instructor. Your issue is with how the instructor treated you, not your son's behavior.
Tell them that you were upset by how the instructor addressed the problem - you felt it was inappropriate not only to discuss the matter before other parents, but to do so in a raised tone. Tell them you were very upset and distressed by his manner, and you are worried that he may use direct this behavior towards the children as well. Tell them that your son enjoys the classes so far, but that you will immediately pull him out of the center and warn other parents about the center, if you suspect any such negative treatment.
The head instructor should immediately offer you an apology for the other instructor's behavior. If they try to discuss, stop them and remind that this conversation is about the instructor's behavior, not your son's - that you'd be happy to discuss your son another time, but you'd like to resolve this issue first.
Remember, you might not have a huge amount of influence as a parent of a single student - but you have the power to influence hundreds of current and potential students through active word-of-mouth and online reviews.
2007-10-18 06:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes talk to the head instructor. Also plan on taking your son out of this class as soon as possible if the head instructor doesn't help. There are other exercise or karate programs he could get in. No way should you tolerate being yelled at and it is not good for your son to see you being yelled at and upset. Remember a good karate instructor is calm and in control.
2007-10-18 06:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Bonnebelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not pass go, do not collect $200.00.
Go directly to the head instructor.
This is a case where the customer is "always right". There is no point in yelling about somebody else's behavior, even if that person is a relative. Was the instructor in danger? Was yelling going to prevent an accident? Was yelling going to facilitate ANYTHING positive happening?
It makes me wonder what this guy is like around kids. I would certainly ask that this event be put in the instructor's employment records and ask for another teacher.
2007-10-18 06:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Elana 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
go to the head instructor and tell him what happened. say you did not appreciate your son's instructor yelling at you and especial in front of other people. tell him you know that your son can be a hand full and that you do want to know if he is acting up but there are better ways to do this instead of yelling at you in a public forum. tell the head instructor that in the future if there is a problem with your son's behavior his instructor should be respectful to you and discuss what went on with you in a clam manner away from other people. you should require that they treat you with respect after all that is one of the lessons they are trying to teach the kids. if they are going off on someone then what does that say to the kids?
Anna i love your additional remarks!!! totally agree.
2007-10-18 06:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you said it yourself you paid for this
you do not deserve that treatment
you are too nice I would have been all up in his face right back
but that's me anyway don't bother with him because you already know he is not a person you can reason with
go to the Head Instructor and tell them if there is ever another issue that needs to be addressed you would prefer it to be behind close doors.
you could ask him to refund your money if he does not agree
you also need to talk to your son you can not be doing this
every time he decides to act up
you are doing this for him and maybe if he can not behave you might have to punish him and take him out for a while
exercise you could always start walking with him take him to the park and play some ball. that should not be the only exercise for him and if he is in school he is getting some exercise there too.
hope all goes well for you
2007-10-18 06:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to the head instructor and let him know that you don't appreciate being yelled at and having your son's behavioral issues broadcasted in front of everyone. You want to be spoken to with respect.
Some of those Karate instructors have a big ego.
2007-10-18 06:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Apparently your son's behavior really affected the class. Why do you think that is ok? Lay down the law to your son, behave in class or you will pull him out of class and he will work off the money you have spent. Next time, don't kill the messenger, parent your child. What respect is it that was offended, apparently your son doesn't have to have any for anyone else or for the instructors. What goes around, comes around.
2007-10-18 06:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
In our dojo we usually allow people to wear the rank that they say they have from another school. But they will not get any kind of promotion until they are up to our standards for the next rank. This goes for all student kyu or dan ranks. You must meet the standards for the next rank before you can test for the next rank. If you say you are a black belt but you skill level is yellow you must go through and learn everything that we require for white belt on until the current rank that you are wearing.You must also know and demonstrated the things necessary for the next rank. Yes black belt have failed the test.
2016-03-13 01:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an ******!! Talk to the head instructor!! Sounds to likes he's trippin!!
2007-10-18 06:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Miss H 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋