Currently we have had a situation come up that I said I would not put up with again. And it has happened again and I dont want my fience to leave, but I dont want this to happen again. When is the last time really the last time?
Am I the only one who does this?
2007-10-18 05:59:48 · 6 answers · asked by gennsss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to HOLD to your WORD because if you don't, he'll know you don't mean what you say and don't have the guts to leave him, so whatever happened, will most likely happen again. Empty threats mean nothing and just encourages more of the same negative actions.
2007-10-18 06:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by johnstonluv 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that happens in my relationship all the time. when my husband does something i really don't want him to do (only if it's really bad.. for example he started calling me a btch whenever we would fight and it really hurt me) i'll tell him, this has to stop or i'm leaving. but then we start to get along again and a few weeks later it will happen again.. and of course i stay and say the same thing again "if it happens again i'm leaving." if you're really in love and you know this person loves you then you should figure out a way to make whatever this is go away. maybe counseling as a last resort. but if this is something really bad, like cheating or abuse, then you can't stay and put up with it. if you continue to fight about this and he doesn't stop whatever it is.. you need to start thinking about where you're going to draw the line. don't let him think that he can treat you bad (or whatever the case may be) and you are just gonna sit around and take it.
2007-10-18 13:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kaelee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not the only one who does this. Unfortunately, once something has happened twice it's time to leave. The first time was already wrong, and to let it happen again was another slap in your face. Do you really want to marry someone that spends their time slapping you across your face?
Men don't change until they want to... And he doesn't want to. You can't wait it out. You can leave and move on. He doesn't need to change if he doesn't want to, but you definitely don't need to stay if he doesn't want to change. It's your choice to stay, and his choice to not change.
One of you need to eventually make a different choice. I'm hoping it's going to be you first =)
2007-10-18 13:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey - if he did it once - he'll do it again. Dont waste your time. You deserve much better. I know you love him and it is easier said than done, but remember that time heals everything. You will get over it. Do this for your self-respect. Dont let him walk on you!
2007-10-18 13:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by troys wife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have told her to shut the fak up but she speaks again
2007-10-18 13:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Z L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he/she cheated, and then turned around, lied, and did it again, dump him/her...She'll/He'll keep doing it if he/she knows you'll take him/her back every time...
2007-10-18 13:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋