2007-10-18 05:46:13 · 23 answers · asked by NatBug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In my circle it's expected to bring a gift for every darn stage from the engagement party to the shower to the bachelorette party to the wedding.
However- I just found this from a wedding etiquette site and I hope it helps:
Wedding gifts and bridal shower gifts are not the same thing. Wedding gifts are given at the wedding and shower gifts are given at the shower. Generally, wedding guests who do not attend the bridal shower will bring a gift to the wedding. Guests who do attend the shower are not expected to bring a gift to the wedding.
In addition, it is not proper wedding etiquette to ask for or mention gifts in the invitation to the wedding. It is improper to put the bride and groom's registry location on the wedding invitation, but it is proper to include that information on the shower invitation.
2007-10-18 06:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some etiquette states that if you attend a shower you bring a gift and if you attend the wedding you bring a gift although it doesn't specify WHAT the gift may be. I usually get a gift for the shower (because you're to shower her with gifts and this is a specific time set aside to open presents) and then for the wedding I get a the couple a nice, sentimental card. I usually write something personal in it with my own hand so they don't think that I rushed out and bought a card. EDIT - I should add that I've been a bridesmaid twice and now I'm the bride. As the bride, I don't expect the bridal party to give me any gifts; it's up to them. Their gift to me is being there for me and my FH.
2016-05-23 08:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by anjanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen a lot of good answers above with several "thumbs down"...not sure why. You bring a bridal shower gift to the shower (typically for the bride) and a wedding gift to the wedding (for the couple). Traditionally, the shower was to shower the bride with things she'd need for her new home (like kitchen stuff), as she would be moving from her parents' home to her first new home with her husband. Obviously, in this day and age, that is less often the case.
I've noticed lately that people seem to buy something from the couple's registry for both occasions. I've also seen suggestions that you put a note in the shower invitations to indicate where the registry is. Sorry, but I disagree with both those things.
Some showers have themes (kitchen, time of day, lingerie). In any event, you certainly don't need to shell out the same amount of $$ for the shower gift. I might spend $100 on a wedding gift and $30-$40 on a shower gift.
2007-10-18 06:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
For a bridal shower, you generally bring a gift... since this event is designed to help the bride and groom acquire things for their new home.
As for the wedding.. no gift is required at all. The guests sharing in your special day and celebrating with you is gift enough and nothing more is expected. However, most people still opt to get a gift or put a little something in a card anyway.
2007-10-18 06:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you attend a shower (or child's birthday party) you must bring a gift with you. How you divide your level of generosity between the wedding gift and shower gift is up to you.
Unless you are a very close friend or relative, it might look tacky to bring a very expensive gift to a shower. Sometimes opening the gifts is a part of the entertainment (bad idea IMO, but frequently done) and a really pricey gift might look like you are showing off, or it might embarrass people who gave less expensive items.
2007-10-18 13:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I've been told gifts brought to the wedding are done so because the person was unable to attend or bring a gift to the bridal shower.
2007-10-18 06:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Manny 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Shower gifts tend to be around $25 to $100 depending on your relationship with the bride. Most people buy something from the registry for the shower and give cash as the wedding gift.
2007-10-18 08:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are invited to a shower, it's nice to take a gift - a more modest one than the wedding gift.
2007-10-19 03:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to, but it is nice. If you've purchased a substantial gift for the wedding something tiny or a congratulatory card is sufficient for the shower. Most of the time gifts for the shower are more for the bride as the gifts for the wedding our for the couples new home.
2007-10-18 05:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yep...they both require their own gifts!! Yea!! If you can't afford two gifts (because no one registers for cheap stuff) I would give a $25 gift card to a store she's registered at for the bridal shower (or even a handmade gift) and then something for her wedding.
Good luck.
2007-10-18 06:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋