my daughters father only see's her everyother weekend. Well i shouldn't even say that, because when he is suposed to be with her, he goes hunting, works, or is at the bar. i dont understand it! ask him if its really that importaint to do those things when he is suposed to be spending time with her, he never says anything..im getting sick of my daughter asking me why she doesn't get to see him, and when is he comming..just reciently she asked me if her dad could move in so she could see him everyday. i understand that we live an hour apart, so its impossible to see her everyday.....but if he had full custody of her i would make it a point to see her at least 2 days a week and i would take her everyweekend!!! do men and women just think differently about the time they spend with there kids???
2007-10-18 05:41:55 · 11 answers · asked by onehotmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't make him...he has to want to. My boyfriend had a kid when he was a teenager and he did not see her very often...like every 3 years! He finally grew up....received his degree from college and now lives with her. A lot of lost time...he regrets it a lot. Have you tried talking to him about it??
2007-10-18 05:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Miss H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you can't. There is no way you can physically make him spend time with her. Yes men and women think differently. It is said to say! But guys think more like "out of sight out of mind" I'm going through some of the same things. I have full custody but he is starting to see him now. The only thing you can do is give her your undivided attention as much as possible. Show her how much you love her and want her. That is about all you can do. Even the courts can not physically make him see her or even pay child support. So you can be both parents. You can do it! It will be hard but I have faith in any woman who shows motivation to support your child! Best of luck to you!
2007-10-18 05:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, far too many men behave the same way with their chidren in their ex-partner's custody. I suspect that it may even be a majority of men in that situation. Being a man, I wish I could say otherwise. Be careful that your daughter doesn't somehow think that YOU are somehow keeping her father away from her. Don't give him ANY excuse to give her that story.
You could maybe try to convince him that you would agree to reduce the child support payments some if he "took" her more often. Yes, it's bribery, but I think it might work. You can't force him to do anything he doesn't want to do.
2007-10-18 05:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that she's not going to be a child much longer. I had no contact with my daughter from age 10 til she turned 21 and moved out of her mom's house. We are just now rebuilding a real relationship. It's gonna be a long road but in the end things will work out. Divorce can be ugly but the kids shouldn't have to suffer.
2007-10-18 08:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Steven D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But not all men think like your husband. I love my son and would not dare miss a time to spend with him. Even if it cost me my job and I was on the streets. I would still see him. Thank God I"m not in that situation. But your husband thinks that he's free now to do whatever he wants. I bet its tough to hear your daughter ask about him. Its almost heartbreaking. Talk to him. Ask him if he wants to see her at all. Tell him that he needs her and he needs to step up as a father. I hope this helps but personally I think that he's a disgrace to fathers. Good Luck.
2007-10-18 05:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by AF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this other woman who has a child of her own wants your child to feel welcome.She may be the one who encouraged your husband to see his daughter more often.Don't feel threatened by this woman and be glad that she cares for your child.As many step moms do not accept other children that are not theirs.
2016-05-23 08:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by anjanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do, some don't. He doesn't want to spend time with her. Sounds like she is old enough to ask him why. I would never talk badly about him, and keep your feelings out of it, but why are you running interference? Tell her you don't know why he doesn't spend time with her, she should ask him why and when he is coming. Don't protect him, that enables his behavior. You cannot control other peoples behavior, only your own.
2007-10-18 06:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they do not think like us. My daughters father does the same thing. They have to want to. You can't make them. But don't worry if he does not wake up soon it will be to late. Trust me your child knows who is doing all the work.
2007-10-18 05:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by ladydia756 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should love spending time with his daughter its not much to ask is it and your child needs routine and im soz but if my daughters dad did that i would stop it
2007-10-18 05:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can bring a horse to water but you cannot force it to drink.
He will regret it when kid grows up and does not want /recognise/acknowledge him.......
2007-10-18 06:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋