My mom has had cancer since I have been in the sixth grade and I am now a senior in high school. I mean yeah I have people here for me but my boyfriend is now leaving for the army in 1 month. Also he wants to spend the rest of my life with him and he is joining for 4 years so that means I would have to move onto his base! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO? I cant leave my mommy but I love my boyfriend wiht all my heart we have been dating for 3 1/2 years...???/
2007-10-18 05:25:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
are there any other relatives that can look after her for you, if not my suggestion is that you and your fiance should think about you staying with your mom, and pray about it
2007-10-18 05:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by tkwaae28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Honey, first of all let me express to you I 100% understand what you're going thru. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was your age.
First there are some things to consider. Are you and your boyfriend going to get married immediately, or sometime in the near or close future. How sick is your mom, is her Cancer in remission or is it active. How far away is the base from your home. Also is your dad around, or do you have family that could assist with your mom. One thing I know about parents is that they want their kids to live happy and healthy lives. She will want to see you happily married one day. Talk it over with her, and your boyfriend and other family members. Everyone's input is needed in your situation and you should feel comfortable with whatever decision you make. Good Luck and I will send up prayers for you and your family!
2007-10-18 12:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kima 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though your mom is ill, you probably need to move forward with your own life too. isn't that what she'd want?
i'm assuming here, but does your father live at home with her? if so, she will be properly cared for. You can always make plans to go home and visit once in a while -- something you and your boyfriend really need to discuss before marrying or moving. if you have this agreement, then you can have a visiting fund set in place, so you save money for going home to see mom from time to time.
i'm sorry about your mom's illness. my mom had cancer too.
talk to your mom about this, as well. i'm sure she would express her feelings to you, and would want your happiness.
take care.
2007-10-18 12:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want, not what your b/f wants. I don't think you are ready to leave home, so stay, go to college in town when you graduate high school. If this is true love, it will wait.
2007-10-18 12:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a chance your mother will be cured? your man will have to wait unless you have someone else to help your mother. i had cancer and my family stayed by my side the whole way, i'm a surviver
2007-10-18 12:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b there 4 her
2007-10-18 12:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by christina t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋