So I was talking to a guy I've been seeing on the phone. At one point in the conversation something comes up and he tells me he'll call me back. Two hrs go by and he doesn't, so I text him. A couple of more hrs go by and he doesn't text back. So I text him again, letting him know generally it's rude not to text ppl back, esp if you promise to call them.
He ends up calling me at 1 in the morning, but I was asleep. So he calls at 8 a.m. He leaves a voicemail saying this, "Good morning! I thought I'd return you the favor and call you before you called me and woke me up. (friend laughs in the background). Just kidding. So, I don't understand why you sent such a harsh text. Honestly, I don't remember saying I'd call you back, but maybe I'm wrong. Anyway I have class at 10:00 so call me after that. Ttyl." Was he pretty much an asshole or am I just overreacting?
2007-10-18 05:01:53 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he was being passive-aggressive. And that's pretty much the same thing as a smart ***. So um.yeah I would be pissed to especially saying that in front of a friend and have that friend bust out laughing. What an ***!
2007-10-18 05:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by KayKay 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you're overreacting. you shouldn't expect him to text back that soon. don't you ever tell someone you'll call and then forget about it because you're too busy doing something else? guys need space. they don't want someone who buggs them everytime they don't call/text back. i was like this too. then my bf simply told me that it's not that he doesn't love me, but that sometimes he is just busy doing something else and it's not like a call can't wait.
as long as he calls you back within a day you can already consider yourself lucky. my guy also sometimes doesn't return texts/calls instantly but after a couple of hours. but i do hear from him every day and i really appreciate that since we only get to see eachother once a week. be happy for the times he calls, don't fuss when it takes longer then you were hoping.
also, how long have you been seeing this guy? maybe he doesn't feel like you guys are being "serious" yet and then it's even less of a big deal...
2007-10-18 05:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously when he says that he will call you back means that he will go out with someone or his friends and he put you on hold when he get sometime or if he remember to call you he will. He is just playing around, he is not taking you seriously as a friend or more. Yes you are pretty pissed off cause he don't gave you a reason from hanging you up. If you pretend to have something with him erase him, he is not into you.
2007-10-18 05:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Charmed_Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him anymore. He's stringing you along and you are allowing him to, and you're making him look like a God in front of all his friends in the process, (i.e: the laughter in the background).
You are being made a fool of, and men love it when women chase them. They are always about the chase, remember that. Once the chase is gone, (on their part) so are they. You are showing him that you like him, by sending him numerous texts and inquiring about his whereabouts so much and he likes it!
My advice: Stop calling him. In fact, don't call him again. Act as of he never existed and watch what happens. If you like him, (which it sounds like you do), this will not be an easy task, but, yeah, ignore his attempts to call you, and know that you are good enough and worthy enough to have a more attentive guy in your mist. Best wishes!
-Knowledge24
2007-10-18 05:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to give him a break. People get busy, forget and lots of other stuff can happen where they either forget to call, or get busy and don't have time.
You will end up pushing him away if you look too needy. And, this is the impression you give when you tell them they are rude because they forgot to call or couldn't get to it within a 4 hour time frame. It's not like he didn't talk to you for a week.
2007-10-18 05:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok grl u betta drop that boy like he aint hot cause hes soo a total waste of your time . Girl you are not overreacting the thing is the way he said the whole pathetic Good morning ithought.......ect. such an asshole forget him ok and move on UNLESS HE SUPEr HOT then keep him and have your revenge lol
2007-10-18 05:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by lil oreo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a hobby so you're not sitting around for hours waiting for someone to call you.
Edit: It sounds like he has a life outside of his relationship, which is healthy. So, he didn't call you back right away. He _did_ call you back, twice. Your life is not adversely impacted. Everything is still pretty much the same as it was before.
2007-10-18 05:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by 006 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not over reacting, if the guy calls you at 1 in the morning, he was obviously out partying the night before, totally disregards and disrespects the time of the phone call then to top it off, he makes you look like an idiot infront of his friend! Do not call him......he's so not worth it!
2007-10-18 05:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by sunfire1165 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about this. You two aren't even in a relationship. He's not obligated to anything right now. If you are seeing traits that you wouldn't appreciate if you were actually with this guy, then don't see him anymore. This is not complex, you are making it more so because you are trying to act like he has some obligation to you when, in reality, it's quite the opposite. You're lucky he even called you back, if someone I was 'seeing' got crazy like that, they'd be out of my life in a heartbeat.
2007-10-18 05:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever wait for a guy to call you back, because when you do you are setting yourself up for disappointment. So go ahead and ignore him this time but don't sit around waiting for him, he wasn't thinking about you til 8am the next morning. What does that tell you.
2007-10-18 05:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋