I haven't initiated contacted with my ex for 2 months. She was the last person who initiated contact with me the last couple of times. However, I recently initiated contact with her through myspace and AIM. We talked for a little bit through AIM but she seemed very cautious and appears to hold a mask in front of me. I'm planning to visit her the next week before I leave the country and hopefully still communicate with her through AIM. Do I apologize what happened and bring up the past or do i try to pickup where we left off (I don't want her to feel uncomfortable about bringing up anything in the past). I guess the whole point of the meeting is so I can make her feel comfortable around me and not have to be too weirded out.
2007-10-18 04:55:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I haven't contacted her for months because I needed to rethink what I wanted in life. I've realized that I do want her back as my girlfriend in my life. So, what approach do I do? In the last three instances in the past 3 days, I've always initiated contact... My plan was to see her at least once before i leave for my trip (which will only last for a couple of weeks) and try to communicate with her consistently through AIM and then see her when I comeback. Thanks for any inputs =)
By the way, when i was talking to her in AIM, she was asking if I was talking to anyone and I responded "no".
2007-10-18 05:09:46 · update #1
i would just suggest saying that you didnt feel that you were ready to talk and that you hope she can forgive you and you can move on as things sit now .. she should understand, breakups are hard and you just needed some time to cool down
2007-10-18 04:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a solid approach. Most couples abstain from contacting one another after ending a relationship, and I think by paying her a visit in the hopes of maintaining some form of friendship is a noble move. However, I suppose my question to you is: What do you hope to get out of this? Do you truly want to be her friend, or are you hoping for something sexual to come out of this visit (pardon me for asking)? If it is for the latter, that could be a messy move.
2007-10-18 05:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by edthegent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say you are sorry you do have a life. She will understand that you are busy. And bring up the past its the past move on and try to make a new start. LIVING IN THE PAST DOESN'T DO ANYONE ANY GOOD.
2007-10-18 05:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize up front, if you are sincere, then agree with each other to move on, but only if the issues have been resolved.
2007-10-18 05:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Thang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly apologize. Even if she's not mad about it, she will realize that you truly wanted to see her. I hope you guys have a good time!
2007-10-18 04:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥bRoKeN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think it , at the time of meeting
2007-10-18 04:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋