I'm completely grossed out by this, but don't want to tell him because I don't want him to think that he is weird.
He has also asked me to lick my own blood after we've slept together while I have my period, which I've refused to do. But he keeps on asking me to!
What should I do? I'm afraid that his distasteful (in my opinion) fantasties will start to affect the way I feel about him after a while. I do love him but I never want to go through with what he has requested time and time again....
Help me!!
2007-10-18 04:26:52 · 45 answers · asked by Liljana C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He actually isn't a very weird person out of the bedroom. Apart from the whole peeing/period thing, we have wonderfully fun times.
This said, we also fight like crazy sometimes, but this is probably because personality-wise we are verrryyyy similar.
Sometimes when I ask him why he wants me to do certain things, he says he just wants to "try" it because he has heard its good.
He has said this especially about "rimming", however I haven't gone through with this either. Ugh! I don't know what to do!
2007-10-18 04:42:31 · update #1
Its hard to see people for who they really are when you are in love with them, your opinion is clouded by the "love" feelings. I have heard of "watersports" before (when guy or girl pees on their significant other while they are being intimate) I dont find that wierd. In fact a couple I know told me that they pee on eachother in the shower and we all had a good laugh out of it. I am more worried about the period blood thing. I have never heard of that and I dont think its normal. Actually I am kind of wondering if he really wants you to do it at all or if he just wants the feeling of power from peeing on you or licking your own blood and degrading you while you do it. If it was just the pee think I wouldnt think anything of it but becuase of the blood thing I think you should run and run away from him as fast as you can. I think he is mentally ill, maybe been abused in the past and I think he wants to abuse you. I would reccommend to leave but if you really, really have to stay with him I would sit him down and be VERY assertive (not while you both are being intimate) and say exactly how you feel and dont hold back, tell him sternly, "I will never lick my own blood from my period and I will never feel comfortable with you peeing on me either," If you want you can add that you dont think he's wierd for wanting that kind of sexual experience (which he is) but you arent comfortable with it and that it is never going to happen so to quit asking. And then you need to give him the option that if he wants that kind of sexual experience that then he can go find it with someone else and you need to break-up with him then and stick with it. Also if he keeps asking you to do these things and pressuring you after you tell him to stop then you need to dump him because you asked him to stop asking you and he's disrespecting you by pressuring you after you asked him nicely not to. Good Luck girl, I hope you get what you really want out of life.
2007-10-18 04:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by juniper555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never have to do anything you are uncomfortable doing. Explain to him that you are just not into that sort of thing and if he insists on it that he needs to find someone a bit more compatible with him. Personally I think both those thoughts are SICK. Even worse, if he cared about you and respected you then he would never ask you to do something you are uncomfortable with or as demeaning as being Peed upon. I think you should probably consider you may be with the wrong person and go and find someone that is going to treat you with a bit more respect.
2007-10-18 04:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by Twigits 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG, that is gross and unclean. It would have changed the way I felt about him. Some things are just not right. If you don't feel comfortable doing that then you should let him know, and tell him to stop asking you. If he continues, then move on, it would be in your best interest to do so anyway.
2007-10-18 04:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Thang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is really nasty. Tell him to let you pee on him and lick your blood while you are on your period and see what he says. I think at some point I would run away from him. Somethings in this world you shouldn't be ask to do
2007-10-18 04:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
licking your own blood from your period is not only discus ting but can make you very ill. Your boyfriend has issues. Sounds like a freak to me might want to rethink this one. Can't see this guy being a husband or a father.
2007-10-18 04:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Face lil lady he is WEIRD!! I can think of alot more pleasan things to do than those he mentioned!! He'll wanna c$%p on you next, he's got the wrong idea of pleaure! Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable
2007-10-18 04:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell him he is nasty like others have suggested. Just say I'm not into that and I'm not going to do it. Please we've discussed this and I don't want to talk about it again. Everyone has some odd fantasies and it sounds like you two are not completely compatible in the bedroom.
2007-10-18 04:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the peeing part really isn't that bad, as long as it stays away from your face.... I have to admit I would be uncomfortable but if he really wanted too, and I wasn't getting it on my face or in my mouth... I guess i would suck it up... maybe I'm weird... but he does like to sneak in while i'm in the shower and pee on me... men are weird....
Now the whole blood thing... I would straight up tell him... NO NO NO... that's just gross. and you can tell him that without feeling bad, she should be told that... ask him if he will do it... ask him if he will lick you @$$ after you take a dump... see what his answer is....
I'm pretty liberal in bed. But i would have to be very firm about the blood... the peeing although not a preffered thing to do in my world, i could do it to make him happy.
2007-10-18 04:32:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
That's disgusting on so many levels, I can't even count them all. Look, if he wants fantasies, that's great! But licking your own blood from having sex on your period?!?! WTF is his issue? When it starts to become unhealthy, unsanitary and unsafe for you, I suggest you get out of the relationship and ask him to get some help. These are not normal fantasies, and they put one party in a lot of danger. Do not bend to this, especially if you are already recognizing that this is not normal and not something you would want to do.
2007-10-18 04:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell him 2 drop it!!!! that aint your style ya know? if he loves u he will let it go and not ask u 2 do nething u dont want to do. there is a line, a fine line between being kinky and being disgusting/trivlan. but yea u need 2 let him kno, quick fast & n a hurry
2007-10-18 04:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by donnetta b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋