My guy swears he would die for me because he loves me so much. His actions contradict his words. He is forever looking and watching other women, especially blondes, with this **** eating grin on his face. I am not referring to a glimpse at an attractive woman, but to sit and watch, ignoring me. At minimum, I find this disrespectful. I guess, where is the line drawn? What are the thoughts provoking the facial expressions? AM I just stupid???
2007-10-18 03:19:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At least he isn't going over and hitting on them!
2007-10-18 03:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by diaboloist99 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
He is def. crossing the line. My finace does this too, only he wont stare like that in front of me, but he will pretend like to look at something else. He is being disrespectful, its one thing to glance for a quick second, sometimes you cant help where your eyes go..but to purpousefully look while you are there? Can you imagine how he acts when you are not there?
Whatever you do, dont start ogling guys in front of him cause this wont solve the problem either. Talk to him, tell him it is disrespectful and you would appreciate him from refraining to make stupid faces at random hot women. And then after that, the next time he does it, say really loud, wow that girl is SO pretty or wow that girl has really big breasts! or just run up to him and kiss him. That will deflect his actions.
Its not cheating, cheating to me would be if he actually started making crude comments to any of these women. You may want to follow him one day to see how he acts alone/with friends. I am sure he loves you, and he means what he says but guys have something wrong with their brain. I see it at work all day, men who are happily married..would die for their wives...yet get together outside for a smoke and start tapping each other and staring at every woman...but i bet they wouldnt have the BALLS to do naything if one of these women actually spoke to them...
Good luck
2007-10-18 10:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is disrespectful for him to ignore you, I agree with you. First of all, it is natural to look at an attractive person, if it's a woman checking out a guy or a guy checking out a girl, you are human, men are more visual then women.
I had an BF who did this all the time, I thought about checking other guys out, but it's stupid and pointless to stoop down to his level. Just talk to him, don't tell him how you feel... be direct and firm with him, tell him it is a lack of respect and for him to be doing that is showing his true colors, and you think he needs to change that, when you express to him "how you feel" he takes it as nagging.....
2007-10-18 10:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt really seem natural for a guy to just sit and watch other woman, ignoring his gf. that IS disrespectful. I think you should talk to him about it and if he gets all defensive, that should tell you what he's been thinking; something he SHOULDNT be thinking and i dont even wanna no what that is. You're not stupid. All of us are like that, even guys when their gfs look at other guys. It's natural for us to feel that way.
2007-10-18 10:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is not cheating. The thoughts and feelings that come from looking may well be. If you notice an attractive person, that mean you're alive. If you undress them in your mind then you're cheating.
It's like kissing. Kissing a person on the cheek is probably not cheating. Shoving your tongue down their throat is.
2007-10-18 10:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a primal thing. It's a sad truth but the male in any species is genetically encoded to seek out mates. While the human mind is developed enough to not act on the instinct the eyes will still stop and survey possible mates.
I'm not trying to excuse his behavior, just trying to shed some light on the scientific reason for it.
2007-10-18 10:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick K 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is human nature to look and yes even stare. Learn to not let this bother you and even point other women out to him that you think are attractive. Seriously! You know who he is going home with. You can have fun with this rather than stressing out over it. And I would put money on it that he wont stare as long if you do this.
2007-10-18 10:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Redneck5 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you want something biblical: "[W]hosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
2007-10-18 11:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not cheating if your mate looks at someone else.
But in the manner in which they look it can be disrespectful to the segneficant other, but by no means is it cheating. cheating is kissing , grabing,and having sex with another.
i think the saying you can look but don't touch is wrong.
i think it should be you can look but don't stare.
2007-10-18 10:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by Logo Bert PIMPIN IT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mine does this as well, I started looking too, and even pointing them out, it helps. He's decreased his "looking"
2007-10-18 10:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Max C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, he might be looking at them but he is with you,and no you definately are not stupid. Have you spoken to him about this? as good communication between people is really good in a relationship.
2007-10-18 10:27:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋