last night my b/f ask me why doesn't my son play with other kids in his area and he spends way to much time watching cartoons,he also says that im the problem and i encourage this things.
also there was a situation where my son was afraid of his teacher (hence the teacher being male) but i had this sorted out already
but im confused about my son not wanting to play with other kids instead he just wanna isolate himself or just play by himself
im not sure if was they way i grew up because i was the same way too i had a problem socializing
i need suggestions here
2007-10-18 03:18:01 · 16 answers · asked by treekgomon 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I was extremely antisocial growing up so I know what he is dealing with. Sometimes trying to get to know other kids is very intimidating. Try talking with him about why he chooses to stay by himself. If he just likes his own company, then maybe that is just the way he wants to be. Not all kids like being around other kids. I don't believe that parents should project their own issues onto their kids. Don't force him to be with other people. If you want him to be more active, that is great. Take him to the park and play with him or just take him for walks, just you and him. He doesn't need to sit in front of the tv all the time but you also shouldn't force him to play with other children. He may just be a loner and like it that way.
2007-10-18 03:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him into an after school activity. I'm all for letting kids chose what interests them but sometimes a parent has to make that decision for them.
Also, find out what's going on at school. Ask the teacher how he interacts with other kids at recess, lunch, etc. Maybe there are some kids he could invite over to play.
Limit the TV. Don't LET him graze in front of it. Spend time doing other activities with him; like playing board games, doing a craft, reading together, going on a bike ride, going to the park.
2007-10-18 04:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite some kids from school or the neighborhood over for playdates (to your house or the playground). Try signing him up for some activity with other kids (sports, music, drama, cub scouts, whatever). Definitely set a limit of an hour or less on TV -- no matter how introverted he is, he needs exercise. If he craves alone time, make sure he gets some, but make sure he gets some time with other kids, too. All kids, introverted or extroverted, need some social interaction just to keep in practice! If he doesn't play with other kids at all, it will become a vicious circle, because he won't learn social skills and nobody will want to play with him when one day he feels more like making friends. If he does play with other kids, he'll develop more confidence in social situations. One of my kids was extremely shy and playdates were difficult for her at first, but they really paid off for her and now she's a happy kid with a nice group of friends. Check with his teacher to see how he's doing socially at school.
2007-10-18 03:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by ... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kids have to learn to play with other kids. If he's not used to it - start slowly - playground, ask him who he likes at school and which kid he would like to play with if he could. Try to meet that kid and parent at the playground, and see what happens. It's hard to fit in with a crowd of kids, and he may be anxious about that - and if he doesn't know the kids really well. It just takes some time!!
2007-10-18 03:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by wfhlembo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, turn off the television and limit television/gamesystem time. Then send him outside. Don't ask, don't beg, just do. It could be he is simply a loner and even outside he will stay to himself but at least he will be outside getting exercise and fresh air. Being a loner is NOT a bad thing, Einstein was a loner, Michaelangelo was a loner. It simply means that they don't have the need to be in the middle of a lot of his peers.
2007-10-19 07:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out activities that might interest him such as boy scouts or karate and enroll him in that. It will be a natural way for him to be around other kids and will encourage socialization.
2007-10-18 03:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut the tv off, take him to the park where there are other kids. talk with his teacher, they spend the most time with the kids during the day, and she could probebly help pair him up with some other kid(s) to get some more socializing.
2007-10-18 03:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by louie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're allowed to spank and that looks like what he desires, a good swat on the butt. have faith it or no longer, human beings nevertheless do spank, do exactly no longer "beat". the 1st spank is for the youngster, the 2d is for the determine. in common terms one swat, it relatively is all it takes, get your element throughout to him that what he's doing is misguided, and after the swat, instruct him some love, hug him and verify he's conscious you adore him, yet there is punishment for his movements. Then everythings advantageous. that's no longer abuse, that's basically abuse in case you recover from excited with it. a lot of dad and mom now days are enjoying those suggestions video games with their teenagers, the completed holiday-your a foul youngster element would not artwork, teenagers now are having further and further complexes, having intercourse at youthful an prolonged time, and being common ol' rebellious and nasty. they don't have admire for their dad and mom and that i think that's via fact their dad and mom no longer call for it. teenagers run the abode. supply him a swat with an evidence, issues will commence straightening up after the 1st few. Your on the superb music, and looks like your a good loving mom desirous to do what's superb on your infants. all of us have been given spankings as teenagers, and if it have been executed wisely in our homes, understand and understand the way effectual that's. superb of success to you, Toni Lynne :) ultimately, do no longer circulate and get him placed on meds, permit him be a toddler, instruct him while and the place that's suitable to be rowdy (although you spell it) and while to be calm, instruct him while to be loud and while to be quiet, your the determine, your on top of issues no longer him (whether it sort of feels at situations he's). The meds exchange the youngster, it relatively is like being placed on anti-depressants via fact which you're a guy or woman that has decrease capability stages, yet opposite for a toddler, if he's fortunate he will stay energized interior the process the tough teenager years and school, that could be super! additionally, attempt getting him in contact with t-ball or teenagers baseball or soccer, some interest that calls for him being your focal element at the same time as enjoying, and the place he can use that capability in an affective way, than in the time of another situations (like the food market etc) while he starts being tough or rowdy, tell him to "shop it for the feild". This worked for us, good success returned!!
2016-10-07 04:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by mangini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best suggestion is to find a good Bible teaching Church and take your son to Sunday School. This is the very best way for him to meet other children and to interact with them. The Lord teaches us to be confident and to speak with boldness and not to fear anything.
2016-07-23 10:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, you need to turn off TV
2,you need his attention
3, limit time on TV set
4, take him out and socialize at the local park
5,he needs other members of the family children to play with.
good luck
2007-10-18 08:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mary H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋