is this worse than having sex with a guy and did i lie?

Question

im a 17 year old girl
few years ago, my grandma(lived with for about 13 years) asked me if i did anything else that she doesn't know because at that time, she found out that i was working out at the gym without her permission i was 13 or 14
this comes to my mind now and ive been always(most of the times) guilty about masturbating with bananas, objects, and rolled napkin
i think i told her that i did nothing else she doesn't know, maybe i didn't think about masturbating when i answered
what if i said no while knowing that i was masturbating, then is that lying?
should i tell her now?
i also masturbated without using these once a few weeks ago
do i have a serious obsessive compulsive disorder
my grandma is better than a mom to me
also i really don't want to tell her, but something always bothers me
i was underaged when this happened, so i feel that she has the right to know; however, she's a very religious, hygenic person and i think she's really against this stuff

is this worse than taking drugs and did i do wrong?
i feel guilty because i feel that i (might have) lied, so i feel the need to tell her

i actually lied

Answer 1

NO! you did not lie!
she said other stuff like other stuff as in have you joined any other things she whuld know about! your private life is up to you!
its none of her buisness if you masturbate! seriously, i talk in all honesty, it is normal for you to masterbate. and your grandma wuld probably tlel you she didnt mena that kind of stuff, you shuldnt feel guilty at all. let it go because she will probably think differento f you if you tell her. or thiink your strange!
and your not, it is normal. but ppl hu r from different generations dnt see stuff like we do!
so seriulsy you have not lied. she didnt ask about your sexual life!!

Answer 2

If you weren't thinking of masturbation when you answered the question, then it wasn't a lie. A lie is an intentional act. As for whether you should confess, I wouldn't reccomend it. Because she is older, she wasn't raised during the generation when women's sexual needs were recognized; therefore, she might not understand why you masturbate. Second, I view masturbation in the same way as taking a bath; it's a private bodily function that almost everyone engages in (who knows, maybe she does masturbate after all). You don't feel compelled to confess every time you shower or brush your teeth, do you? Then don't worry about it.

Although you say you love your grandma, I get the sense that she's pretty strict if she objects to you working out. Parents and guardians should applaud kids for developing healthy habits, not lecture them. It may be a big deal if you paid for a membership with her money, but you are a very good kid if this is all you've done!

I think you may have OCD, but i your case, I'd say it's not due to masturbation. If you only do it every few weeks, that's hardly a compulsion. What concerns me more is your extreme fear of how she'll react to you doing things independently. You seem strongly punishment aversive. Adults must accep that their teenage (grand)children are going to do things on their own to express their personalities. If you are afraid of your grandma or other authority figures, perhaps you should find a counselor or safe mentor to talk to.

Answer 3

Masturbation is a normal part of life, it's not a crime or sin and IT'S PERSONAL.... your grandmother does not need to know what you do in your alone time.

Everyone masturbates at one time or the other, and it's a release. Believe it or not, it can do your body good... the result of masturbation releases endorphins which lift your mood. So no reason for guilt, or to share your personal activities with others.

Think about it -- has your grandmother discessed her sex life with you?? Probably not.

Take care and remember, some things are personal....

Answer 4

it's not really bad to masturbate, it has health benefits and you should keep it personal, it's like eating a fruit, it gives you vitamin C but it's bad too cause it has calories and you get fat if you eat too many calories, now ain't that bad as well, joining a gym ain't bad either, you are entitled to freedom, doing bad is only things that are against the law and will put you in jail or some kind of misdemeanor or felony, i'm sure you're innocent lol

Answer 5

You as a human being have the right to keep certain things to yourself if you feel like it won't damage the other person to not know. The worst thing that can happen is she would rag on you for doing it and you would feel like it was worthless to have told her in the first place.

Answer 6

Give yourself a break......In Sweden you are having sex - you would be considered sexually active...here in America you would be considered not sexually active....

Your Grandmother more than likely will understand your deli ma.....she isn't as prudish as she would like for you to think.....my grandmother was awesome when it came to things like this.....my mom on the other hand wanted me to think that she was all virginal.......and respect her......as you should.

Grandma probably already knows......

Answer 7

Some things are meant to be private. It is human nature to try things. Most people do things that they don't tell anyone about. As long as it didn't hurt your grandmother, then I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 8

if you want to tell her tell her but you really dont have to its your business no one elses, and its normal i do it so what and only my boyfriend knows , i think its sumat she wouls rather not know lol , ur eyes only may be x x x good luck i hope ive helped

Answer 9

no don't tell her. and for goodness sakes don't put that banana back in the fruit bowl. and get rid of them napkins

Answer 10

no , you did not lie . 2 , IT IS NONE OF HER CONCERN . YOU ARE GROWING UP . KEEP IT UP ! IT ' S YOUR LIFE .