I was very much attached with a guy recently. He is a married guy but seperated from his wife for the past 4 years. I didn't fell in love with him but i am really attached to him very much. Now, his wife has reunion with him. I have to limit my realtion with him and hence i have minimize my contact with him. But really cannot forget him. almost everyday i am crying missing him. I am feeling like i have lost someone in my life. For me, he was like a precious gift in my life. But now no longer in my life. I really want to come out from this feelings. I want him to be happy with his family. i really want to stop missing him. I am praying dailly to overcome this. But still having difficulties. Can anyone help?
2007-10-18 03:07:10 · 9 answers · asked by Miss Malar 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Acutally, I wasn't having a love feelings towards him. Even, when I was with him, I always pray to God that he should get back to his wife and kid. I want him to be happy. We both in spiritual line actually. I didn't feel jealousy with his wife. But, all of a sudden, I feel very lonely without him. Lasttime, I always refer him for any single matter. But now, I am stopping to do that. At times, I am avoiding him just to avoid myself frm missing him lot. It has been abt 3 months only his wife get back to him. I think i need more time to forget it. The thing here is, i am very much busy girl with my work and studies. I am always havign roller-coaster busy life. Yet, at times, I really can't stop missing him. Staying alone in a hostel making the situation more worse. I am praying to God for his happiness and I am also praying to stop missing him. I knew it's not right to miss someones husband. Any other advise?
2007-10-18 03:42:46 · update #1
Don't try to forget him. This is the time to put him in the "sweet memories" file and get on with your life. I'm glad that you are grateful he is back with his wife trying to make his marriage work. I have a memory from more than forty years such as yours. He will always be one of my precious memories but I moved on, had a family and got on with the business of the future, not the past. You can't change what happened but you can change how you deal with it. Focus on your future and you will feel much better.
2007-10-18 03:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he is a married guy.
How about...you deserve MORE than someone that's already married to someone else?
You deserve a man that's free to love YOU!
Don't expect to just forget him in a week...time will help heal...in the meantime, I'd say the best medicine for you is to consciously FORCE yourself to not think about him. It's tempting...but don't. You feel tempted to reminisce, to remember? Don't! It's for your own good. Trying to find an excuse to think about him? Don't. Turn on the TV, the radio..go to the mall, the gym. Let him go.
I think the best way to forget someone is to emerge yourself in the singles crowd again (although it sucks in the beginning because you're not interested). Meet new people. Don't have expectiations for now..just go out there have a good time. No one expects you to "feel" something for someone so soon, but just go out with your friends and dance, have fun, talk to other men, at least listen to what they might say...a compliment, a secret...
Time will heal completely. And actually finding another sweetheart will speed up the process:) Cheer up, I'm sure you're a beautiful, smart, elegant woman who deserves more!
2007-10-18 03:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there.
Done that.
Bought the t-shirt,
and wore it out. (ha)
Actually, I didn't know he WAS married, until I had fallen in love with him.
As painful as it is right now, I can tell you it's true: time will heal. Find things to occupy your time. When you are lonely, don't turn on the radio and hear love songs that make you hurt even more. When you are with friends, don't talk about it so much. When you are hurting, remember God loves you. Fill the hole in your heart with Him. Stay busy, and thank God for today. Stay in today, and don't worry about the future.
Good luck. God bless.
2007-10-18 03:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by C Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never forget him. Make sure you stay away from him because he is married. Date other people that will help you get your mind off of him but you may never forget him. You shouldn't have gotten so close to someone who is still married. I know you can't control how your feelings but you have to get over it. He is married. Maybe him and his wife needed some time apart. Now that they had their time apart they are ready to do things together again. Find another man and move on with a single man.
2007-10-18 03:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by SandraD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation. I would have to say that time heals all wounds and that this is still new. As with any loss over time it will be less painful. In the mean time do things for yourself. Get a pedicure, exercise etc. Good luck
2007-10-18 03:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
There are plenty more fish in the sea, and I'm deeply sorry to hear about your problem.
Although my best advice is maybe meeting someone else?
Could always try dating sites, speed dating, join a club.
You shouldn't let the past hold you down.
Good luck.
2007-10-18 03:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm doing that right now too and am on the brink of suicide because of it. everytime i picture him in my mind i want to stab myself in the head with a butcher's knife. i hope you aren't there. i hope someone gives you good advice so maybe i can follow it too. thank you for your question.
2007-10-18 03:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by 43rd anonymous poster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok! this is what u do!
do not see him or talk to him, delete his phone number and never go near him again or at least for a few months!
u need to do this!............................
think of someone u hate..... i mean really hate not just u dont like them think of someone who makes u sooo unbeleivably angry that the thought of them makes your skin crawl!
no think of your gay! and think of the person u hate,,, and everything that u hate about this person again! and think of your guy again and keep going backwards and forwards thinking about the two of them!!!
every single time you think of this guy that you like think of this person that you hate!!!!! and do this every time!
it'll take ages for it to work but u wont like him anymore!!! u will end up hating him! ! !
2007-10-18 04:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget. But if you remain strong through this, you will feel invincible in about a year. Its terrible now but trust me, it will be a very different feeling in you in about a year.
2007-10-18 03:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by America scarica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋