what can i do?

Question

i dont know if i embaressed him or not but i know i embaressed myself that night we were all cold and standing in ranks (i go to army cadets) everyone knew i fancied jack a corprol and this adult asked if asny1 wanted to ask anything i just laughed then sargent taylor came up to me and told me to ask im i said no then he said oh by the way jack styand there he was in the middle of everyone facing them and christina wants to know will you go out with her i was emmbarressed i didnt hear him say no but apparently he said no and i really really like him i see him tonight what should i do should i apologise or ignore him or talk to him. i struggle cause everyone keeps shouting rejected at me and he is never on his own so um what do i do please help i need advise before 2.30pm 2day cause i dont have a computer at home please please help me

Answer 1

First of all, calm down. Take a couple of deep breaths and a drink of water.

Now, here's the thing - it's clear you and he like each other, everyone has picked up on that.

It's also clear that 'everyone' are interfering jerks and just want to embarrass you.

I think that you may have let them get to you, and by the sound of it, the boy in question has also let them get to him, hence you both are embarrassed at being put on the spot like that, and this is perfectly understandable.

I don't think you need apologise to anyone about this. The adult and the sergeant are the ones who owe you and the boy a major apology for embarrassing you both. And a tip, honey, unless the person for whom you are apologising is a child who is too young to know any better or an elderly person who is going senile, NEVER apologise for something someone else has done. You are not culpable in any way.

Here's what I think you should do: Just smile at the boy you like, and keep moving. Ignoring him is not a good idea, as it would let the jerks think they have got to you, and it's time to end that. The important thing is you like the boy, and you would like to know if he likes you. So just smile, say hi, ignore everyone else and their taunts, and keep moving. Keep the head high and remind yourself that you're fabulous. If he likes you, he'll let you know in his own time. And he'll appreciate it that you have given him the chance to show some initiative.

Boys are like cats, if they think you're following them around they'll make like they don't want to know, but if you are friendly but don't seem too bothered to show it, they'll want to know. They are contrary creatures. In this case, it doesn't help that the boy is a little shy and hates being put on the spot by those other mean people.

So be friendly to him, but not too much; ignore the others and do only what you need to. Do not hang around, or 'forget' anything so you have to go back for it .... you have to be patient and let him come to you, and this will probably take a while.

Answer 2

hey look just be bigger than everyone ignore them if u like this guy u like him dnt be embaressed by what what happened! fair enough he may have been embaressed by it but the only thing u can do is show u aint afraid and walk up to him and tell him how u feel u never no he might feel the same way!!! i had a problem like this before with my sister but when she was shouted at or laughed at she either jus ignored it or stood up n said at least she had the balls, o "like u've never been turned down before" and u no what it worked n she got her man in the end plus they have been together for over a year now i think?? her man told me that he liked her but was embaressed to say n my sis was the same it took something stupid to happen to actually get them together and hey they cant be without eachother now!! let me no how u get on ill be rooting for ya!!! xxxxxx

Answer 3

Christina- Charge, be up front, be honest. Say "I'm sorry about how we got off to a bad start". I would like to get to know you better if you're available. If not, I understand. All the while smiling as you talk. If he says "No", it's better to find out now rather than later. Show you're in charge of your leelings and life. Guys, smart guys, like that.

Answer 4

Just play it by ear, go and just get on with what you usually do, if he is decent at all he will come and have a word with you in quiet. Don`t listen to the rest of them we have all had deeply embarrasing moments but if you just let them slip and get on as usual all will be forgotten, next time it will be somebody elses turn for embarrassment.
Life`s Too Short

Answer 5

You should apologize for putting him on the spot and unless he said no because he was embarrassed but would really like to go out with you, you should move on and ask out the next guy you get a crush on.

Answer 6

i think it would be better to do nothing, just be the way you usually do when his around,, act naturally,, as if nothing happened, ignore him if you can,,, you know that's the best thing to do, i believe,,,,sorry I'm not a good adviser but that's what i think and most probably would do if i were you,,, and you know, there are some men ( especially those men who knows you like them), who usually become arrogant or something the like or would act as if they are the most beautiful creature god had ever made and ignoring them would i think have two results which I'm afraid to say that i couldn't elaborate anymore,,, good-luck to your endeavor

Answer 7

Look you didn't do anything wrong. Apologize to him and just let it go. As far as the other cadets go. Tell them you aren't afraid to be who you are and you have enough guts to admit that you like someone what's their excuse? They should ease up a little.

Answer 8

Quitely explain to him that you didn't ask the sargent to ask him that and you hope he was not embarrassed . leave the rest to him.

Answer 9

Hi, if you ignore him, it will make things worse.Talk about it if it comes up but if it doesnt, well,let it be.

Answer 10

its best to talk about it rather than bothering about what others will think. if he says no what's the big deal? just do it!