What if you don't feel attracted to them?
(By the way I'm not in this situation, but what is your answer?)
2007-10-17 23:56:49 · 14 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I first met my boyfriend I wasn't attracted to him. We were friends for a few months before anything else and during that time I wasn't interested in a relationship at all and there was no expectation of one. As our friendship progressed and I got to know him better and saw the kind of person he was/is I did find myself falling for him. We've been together 4 months now and I think he's the most beautiful person I have ever met.
I do think it's wrong not to give someone a chance. I think a lot of people move too quick when it comes to relationships. Be friends first no matter what your first impression is of them. First impressions don't always stick. It really is what's on the inside that matters. Once you give yourself the chance to see the inside it begins to reflect on the outside and you don't see that person the same way you initially did.
2007-10-18 00:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be with someone you arent attracted to. If you are attracted to their personality that makes them all the more attractive despite the looks. If you have a certain 'connection' looks can be overcome somewhat. But I believe physical attraction is a big component in it. You have to have both physical/personality attraction. If you fall in love with that person, at least in my case, i wouldnt care if they became deformed, i would still love them because i love who they are not what they look like.
2007-10-18 07:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by broz215 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly,I don't feel like there is anything wrong with that. I mean,yes, personality can help that but if your not attracted to them its not going to work out.
2007-10-18 07:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Beach Bunny77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks Fade
Personality stays
2007-10-18 07:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by failte1950 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel attracted to them, gorgeous or not, its not right. i dont think its right to be forced into a relationship of where your not happy.
And for the looks thing, i know it sounds mean, but there does have to be some standards..
2007-10-18 07:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's very important to be attracted to person that you dating. Dating someone just because you feel shallow for not finding them attractive would be stringing them along, and no one deserves that, no matter how hideously unattractive they are.
2007-10-18 07:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by rummy1978 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its wrong, maybe a little mean. When i first met my bf, i would have NEVER pictured myself with him. I just wasn't attracted to him, but the type of person he is attracted me to him and now i think he's hott!!
2007-10-18 07:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Paula 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Puh-lease! If you don't like a person, you don't like them. It doesn't matter what other people say you should feel about them or their looks. I find myself in that situation a lot!
2007-10-18 07:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Christina A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they look ugly its not really a problem but if they are indeed attractrive i would go out with them its not only looks even style the way they carry out themselves also matters
2007-10-18 07:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by vastav p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could watch beauty and the beast and see the whole beauty is inside thing,but if you really dont fancy someone,then you cant really go out with them.i dont think that would be fair
2007-10-18 07:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋