I am 21 years old but i feel that i am not ready for the responsibility to leave my family.
2007-10-17 19:54:05 · 24 answers · asked by sanza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is your answer, your not ready, wait til you are, nothing has to be rushed.
2007-10-17 20:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be married to live together its not 1950 anymore. once you are in a serious relationship moving in together has become an inbetween step before marriage. its a good way to get to know a person's irritating habits before you are married and legally bound. its no wonder as co-habitating has grown in acceptance the divorce rate has gone down in the last 10 years
If you are not ready do not rush it. it may lead to hurt feeling later on. take it slow. talk it over with your family. your parents should be as open and honest with you as anyone.
It might also be a good idea for you (if you can afford it) to get a place of your own or maybe with some girl firends of yours first. there are a lot of things you do not expect to deal with while you are living with your parents but being somewhat on your own before it would help you be prepared to deal with them when it is 10 x more intense living with a BF or a spouse later on
2007-10-17 20:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by froggy_logic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmm, I'd have to say no. Statistics are completely against it. Look them up on how long couples last once they cohabitate. If I told you, you wouldn't believe me.
Secondly, you asked if it was wise. The Wisest guy that ever lived was a dude named a Solomon. He was a king a long time ago. He wrote this book called Proverbs. You may have heard of it. It's in the middle of the Bible. He says that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. He also says that the way of the transgressor is hard. That basically means, this is going to work out bad for you, hun. And it's gonna hurt. You know what the right thing to do is. Love is patient. Love protects. There are men out there who will give to you and protect you.
2007-10-17 20:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Adan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it unless you feel 100% ok with it. If your not ready to leave your family you will be very unhappy and miss them a lot. Living with a guy is a huge step and by the sounds of it you need more time , so just tell him to wait if he loves you he wont have problem with it. Make sure you dont get pressured into something you dont want to do.
2007-10-17 19:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
You are not ready, period.
Let me ask you this, if he were to propose marriage, would you say yes and have no problems moving in with him then?
If the answer is yes, then I would say you are not ready because of your conscience.
You were taught what is right and wrong, which is a great thing.
Bottom line, don't let anyone make you do something you do not want to do.
Good luck
2007-10-17 19:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then the answer would be defiantly not if you don;t feel ready it is a huge leap and commitment I know I did it last year moved in with my girlfriend and I am over 21. If your boyfriend truly loves you then he will wait. Good luck
2007-10-17 19:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by tim_gregory30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be ready to move in with him , but you ARE smart! Stick with that feeling and do not let him talk you into doing anything that you are not ready to do! It will only end up a bad experience for you both. Wait until YOU are ready to do anything in life and you will not regret it. You are one smart young lady!
2007-10-17 20:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, DONT. It's not easy at all living with a man. I know you may love him to death, but moving in with him can change your relationship alot. And you start to have more arguements and issues too. Move in when you think your relationship is strong enough to handle all that. Also take in to consideration how long you and him have been together.
2007-10-17 20:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you aren't ready, you'd be foolish to not listen to your own gut. Nobody knows you like you do! 21 is old enough to be out on your own if you're comfortable with the idea of calling somewhere else home and if you're comfortable with who you share that home with. If not, you keep your little self right where you are until it feels right to YOU! You will know when it's time. Until then, stay true to yourself and keep your regrets down!
2007-10-17 19:59:27 · answer #9 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are asking a question in a very biased way.
ex) Should I take the job that I hate?
ex) Should I marry the man that I'm not in love with?
ex) Should I move in when I feel that I'm not ready?
These kinds of questions are so annoying.. very biased :) Why don't you just ask "Please tell me I shouldn't move in with my boyfriend?"
2007-10-17 19:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not move in if you are not ready plain and simple. Stay at home until you are ready.
2007-10-17 19:58:29 · answer #11 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋