I went to a night club to dance and meet people. A man asked me what I did. I replied that I was a substitute teacher and a FT student. He said I was too ambitious. He asked if I smoked pot. I replied I didn't. Later I spotted him dancing with a seedy looking, heavily tatooed, smoking woman that he ended up dating. I later heard her she is a HS drop out, her kids were taken away from her and she has a criminal record. That is why I stopped going to clubs. What is it with men's values in women these days?
2007-10-17 18:58:09 · 37 answers · asked by LAgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Easy Darlin'... he was obviously looking for a fast cheap piece of *** and he must of realized you aren't going to just give it up and that you are not easy. Good For You!
Guys are just plain sleezy. When they go out to a club or a bar all they care about is getting laid that night, simple as that.
You don't want to meet a guy at clubs anyways... I stopped going too. I noticed I meet way better guys at the gym, mall, bookstore, thru family friends...
Best of Luck Girlie!! Keep your standards UP!
2007-10-17 19:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Skinny Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a recovering alcoholic, I can tell you the truth. After a few drinks people--no matter woman or man-- will let down their standards. Not all but, I've seen it so many times that the occurrence of it makes me wonder as well. I've been sober now for 8+ years, and the things I would do when I had been drinking still makes me wonder, what the hell was I thinking. On the same subject, I've also seen people drink and think they are someone their are not. I now manage a steak house that has three different bars in it. A formal lounge, a honky tonk saloon, and a casino. And guess where I see the seediest people acting like they just got out of Paris Hilton's limo?????????? You guessed it THE FORMAL LOUNGE!!! I don't mind people having a good time but I really roll my eyes when people who don't have pocket change to tip my servers will put on such an air after a few to many!! Then see them at the grocery store buying ramen noodles with food stamps. At least stay at home and save face.
2007-10-17 19:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by epat87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mens value's are just like females value's these days. It isn't all about a males values. But to answer your question, maybe he wants a girl who wud be down with anything and wud just throw herself on him n prolly sleep with him on the first night. The problem these days is that no one really pays attetion to real vlues anymore, just looks. Many women and man these days look for a sexy person not a good person. Just find yourself a guy who is a good guy respectful guy. Take for intance, I got out of a relationship about 4 months ago, ever since I have bin tryin to find someone else and I had no luck, I am nice lookin, I aint the kind gurls wud just freak over am just a little above average, but I don't smoke I don't drink and I am a God fearing young man. Very genuine and an overall gud person. So I think the question you should ask is wats wrong with young adults these days.
2007-10-17 19:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Michael F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! Mens value in woman have dropped dramatically! Although, I think you can still go out and meet nice guys, you just have to be sceptical of them. There are nice guys out there. Also you will never meet a guy you can have a serious relationship at a club! If a guy seems seedy, then why would you want to talk to him anyway. You are better then that!!!
2007-10-17 19:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by stace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First mistake. You asked what's wrong with men. Hahahaa, EVERYTHING!
But seriously, men that don't like ambitious women are just looking for someone they can control. Alot of men feel a need to have power and be the alpha in a relationship. I was dating someone who was very competative because I'm an aspiring welder. If I beat him at a videogame, or beat his score, he worked so hard to beat what I did.
Face it, men are too insecure about their masculinity, what with all the different pressure being put on them to be muscular, be the money makers while the women stay at home, or have the biggest, *cough* you know.
But don't give up, there are good men out there. You probably won't find them at a nightclub though.
2007-10-17 19:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by darkchildjulz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't judge all men by those at a night club. Finding the right mate take hard work, good judgment and sound ethics.
The biggest problem I see is that most women are attracted to the individuals that are labeled as losers.
Try going outside your comfort zone (circle of friends. same night spots etc.) and try going square dancing to see who you meet (if doesn't have to be square dancing).
Get to know the person, not the front, and good luck.
As I once heard, today's nerd is tomorrows leader. Try one, I did.
2007-10-17 19:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by mrosa2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not all of them hun.. it's just this one. At a nightclub guys like this do show up, but so do nice ones that are looking for a good time. I personally met mybf at a nightclub and at first i wasn't sure so i didn't dance with him because he looks like one of those player geno types. He kept trying and i gave in. I have to be honest he looked gorgeous, but i felt odd because i dated a guy that looked like him earlier and it didn't go so good so that confused me. He's the sweetest guy and after the club that night he called me and we hanged out all night. He took me to the beach with his car and we just laid on the hood staring at the stars. He didn't try anything eaither only a kiss..
Good guys are everywhere even somtimes in the wrong places/ Don't let an appearance turn you right off..
Ya i agree his personality is repolsive and his taste in girls is horrible, but ay.. everyone has different tastes right?!
2007-10-17 19:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men's values are fine.
It's because you're meeting men at the club.
What do you expect? -.-
BTW, what he probably meant by "you are too ambitious", is that he's probably worthless and does nothing with his life, which is why he was at the club. So don't be so worried about your loss.
Go to the club for drinks and fun with your girls or crew, don't worry about men unless you're interested in being on the meat market.
If that's what you're there for, then cool.
2007-10-17 19:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Falcata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not about women, its about men.
Some men don't have ambition. They don't wanna end up with a woman that's not gonna look up at them.
It happens a lot these days that men feel threatened by succesful women thinking that they're feet will never fill the shoes of the man you deserve.
Thats why they'll always end up with woman that are less recommandable.
2007-10-17 19:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mimza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men go to clubs ONLY to get laid. He figured that because you are educated you are no longer a "target" for him to get laid with. So he moved on to try and meet a woman whom he figured would give him a better chance at laying him.
You need to stop going to clubs. Most clubs these days are reseved for only the most seedy people.
2007-10-17 19:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋