I'm in a miserable relationship but feel guilty that it's my fault. I am looking for resources that might help

Question

I feel that I can never give enough to this relationship. She's always raising the bar. When I want to talk about our difficulties, she claims I only criticize and plays the victim. I must overcome my sense of failure in not making this work since i think she is the one who can't commit and looks for reasons to run.

Answer 1

Good heavens....find a good counselor. If either of you have a relationship with a church, or KNOW someone that does, ask for help!

Answer 2

Get out of this relationship fast !!!
You are wasting time for both of you .
If your heart isn't in it , no matter how hard you try , you will not succeed . Do not feel that you are a failure because you can't make it work . In such circumstances you have to play the " Take it or Leave it ", line ; if I'm not good enough go and find someone else .
This girl/woman is not right for you , don't put up with it any longer .

Answer 3

If this relationship is just that and not a commitment like marriage, you may wish to reevaluate whether or not you will ever live up to her expectations. If you look at her as if she plays the victim, somewhere down deep inside of you, you resent this. My advise would be get out of this relationship and down the line find one that you feel more in which you feel more comfortable. This is not healthy for either of you.

Answer 4

you need to find someone to talk to or get out of the relationship for your own good. i know the other person in a relationship can bring you up or down, i have been there..but you need to find someone you both can talk to if the relationship is where you want to be.

Answer 5

To be honest, it looks like it's already over. If you just can leave yet, then go to counseling, together AND individually. Don't drag your feet about it. You need your life and your happiness. Guilt has no part of that.

Answer 6

run yourself it sounds like shes trying to control u