My Wedding is in 10 months. I have 4 bridesmaids in my wedding. and My Fiance has only 1 guy standing in the wedding. My Fiance best friend said he couldn't stand in the wedding because his wife thinks there would be hot women in the wedding party.(which my bridesmaids happen to be married with kids anyway) I can't uninvite my bridesmaids and My Fiance family is from Russia and 99% of the family still lives there. He is also an only child. What can I do. I am really desperate for answers. My Fiance is very shy so his friends are far and few between. HELP!
2007-10-17 18:10:34 · 13 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm getting married next year and have a simular problem. My bf has like 6 guys he says HAVE to be in his wedding. I have four girls and one of them is kind of the line because she isn't sure she can be in the wedding yet due to money issues. I didn't want to have to invite people I don't know that well. My bf has one girl he is very good friends with, and I like too and I am thinking of having her stand in if the one with money issues decides she can't. But that still leaves four.
I read in the bridal books that you don't have to match them up equally. When the cermony starts you can have the guys up at the alter with the groom and only the girls walk down with flowers. When they leave they can walk out in pairs and then the remaining guys/girls can just walk next to each other. No one is going to notice at that time. They pay more attention to people walking down the aisle that back up lol. I think i'm just going to do that.
It's also completely normal to have your guy friends or family members be groomsmen. Another idea in the book is to take the extra people and give them different honorary jobs. So if you have one or two men in your family that can stand in and you're still over a girl.. you can give her a different job. That can be touchy because they might not think it's a good as being a bridesmaid. I don't really want to do that myself. I wish I could give you some of my extra guys heh.
2007-10-17 20:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by bluekrush74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh.. That is so sad that his BF wife has that attitude..
Perhaps some of your bridesmaids husbands will be happy to stand in? Or do you have any close male friends or relatives that could?
I guess you're lucky in the fact that you do have 10 months to go, and you could give his BF's wife a month or two to come around.. Maybe have her round for dinner or something where she can spend sometime with your friends and bridesmaids to see that her jealousy is irrational.
If all else fails, you may have to tactfully change one of your bridesmaids 'roles' to maybe a greeter, or someone who reads a special poem or verse during the ceremony..
Good luck!! :o)
2007-10-17 18:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have your fiance' best friends wife be one of your brides maid . Get a cousin to And why aren't ' the husband s to your bridesmaids standing in for your fiance ? Seems reasonable to me . Since he has no friends .
2007-10-18 00:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to your bridesmaids for some advice. See if they are willing to step down as bridesmaids and not have any attendants at all. Just have a very sweet simple and intimitate wedding with just close family and friends. That is how my wedding is going to be. I use to want to have my cousins as my bridesmaids when I was little. But we just want it to just be me and him at the altar and share it with our family and close friends. I think it is more romantic that way.
2007-10-17 18:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason that if the time comes and he still has no men to stand with him, you get some of your guy friends to stand. I'm sure in almost a year, you both will have met other couples and you probably won't even have this concern later. Congratulations on the future wedding!!
2007-10-17 18:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss, if you want ...you can actually take a guy from your side of family to solve the problem if you have any or maybe your guy friends.
This is what my cousin do when she get married, she too married to a man that lives different part from her and he too don't have much friends.
So what my cousin did, she gather all our male relatives and her guy friends to help her out and all was worked out real well when the day came. So hope the best for you!
2007-10-17 18:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by ein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about everything being even and matched up- have the people you want and love, who cares about the rest. Four girls and one guy? Why not! Better than having random people that you wouldn't have asked otherwise- I think it's actually a little insulting to say to someone "we need another guy, will you be in the wedding"
2007-10-18 06:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The numbers don't have to be even. Get a wedding etiquette book, it says it in there.
Like others say though, if you have brothers or older nephews, maybe they can stand in? Also, what about the husbands of your friends? Do they know your husband? If you have to have it "even" would they be willing to do that for you??
2007-10-18 00:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read in a bridal magazine that this situation is coming up alot latley...and they just have two girls stand up together...yeh its untraditional but its unique!..I also like the idea of the guy centering around the 4 bridesmaids...and i think that guys should stand up...he need to grow something and man up to his wife.
2007-10-17 19:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by moviebuff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off don't panic, everything will work out in the end. Do the two of you have mutual friends, maybe not the closest of friends but mutual friends. Maybe you could ask one or two of them to stand in, I mean clear it with him first. If he is shy then ask him what he thinks and then you do the asking.
2007-10-18 08:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋