I'm coming out of a 16 year marriage and quite frankly, I'm just not into getting remarried. I dislike lying to anyone, but I feel terrible inside when I KNOW all I want is sex and friendship. I want there to be a connection, but I just don't want the responsibility of having to report to someone. I do not want to use or abuse a WOMAN's feelings/emotions, and I do want to care about her, but really, I just want someone to have sex with. SOMEONE means a WOMAN.
Quite frankly, I do not know how to respect a woman who is just in a relationship for sex. I feel like I'm sliding on a double edged sword.
2007-10-17 17:51:45 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, I GET IT. I knew it, but damnit, I'm unhappy. I can't seem to find happiness. And yes, I know it's wrong and guess what? I am unable to do it. I've turned down more sex than I've gotten for the very reasons mentioned by the RN. I just can't make myself lighten up and become "one of them." I have too much integrity and respect for my fellow MAN to cuckle them.
2007-10-17 18:06:41 · update #1
You are sliding on a double-edged sword. No doubt about it. There's no problem with wanting to be close and have sex with someone without commitment as long as it's mutually agreed upon from the beginning. That's what prostitution is all about only there is an exchange of money in order to acknowledge this mutual agreement. Then there is the bar scenario where people traditionally go to pass time away and with any luck find sex in the bargain and the sex you describe. But usually there are the traditional half-truths exchanged instead of money.
You've just been through a 16-year marriage. Remarriage at this point is ludicrous at best. You need a long time to deal with that relationship before allowing any one into your life and to whom you can be yourself with. What you are looking for is what any honest man would confess. Just make that clear to the woman of interest and be assured that's all she's looking for as well. It's a tall order and I wish you the best of luck. Just steer clear of the sensitive, caring women -- out of respect. And that is one way you learn respect.
2007-10-17 18:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by OP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sooooooo what you're lookin for is the ol' friends with bennies thang! It's the new (YEAH, RIGHT...we called it free love in the 60s) relationship without a relationship that sorry people are into these days. Go ahead! There are MANY housewives sitting alone at home, while their hubbies are out on the road making a living....WINK! WINK!...and while they are gone the wife is home getting laid by some guy like YOU! No, relationship, just fun in the sack....you know.....empty, senseless sex with nothing to worry about....except the STDs you'll be sharing with her or she you! We see 'em all night in the ER.....when her hubby gets home and she's got something and gives it to him OR he's got it and brings it home to her....we just treat em and street em and let them fight it out about who gave what to whom.....it's the new healthcare!
Have at it!
2007-10-18 01:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no there is nothing wrong as long as both of you are old and mature enough and make sure that you both know what is happening ---- if you cant respect a lady for feeling the same way that you do then i suggest you dont get with any --- and be celibate
2007-10-18 00:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋