please help?

Question

hi i have a lot of tauma in my life. my best friend died of leukemia 2 years ago and all of a sudden i start crying . idk wut 2 do!

Answer 1

First of all, you're still grieving. When we lose someone, there is no pre-set amount of time that we grieve their loss. Some people bounce back rather quickly, and for others it might take months... even years.

I know what you're going through. Everyone has lost someone at some point in their lives. Right now, you feel as though it will never get better... but it does. As I said, some people take years before the pain subsides.

I'm concerned by what you said about having had a lot of "trauma" in your life. You need to talk to someone to get these issues out. Keeping it all bottled up inside you is a very bad idea and only makes you feel worse.

See if you can find a good therapist or counselor in your area and make an appointment. If you're a religious person, see your clergyman. Even talking to a close friend is better than not talking this over at all. Either way, please talk to someone. It's sure to help.

I hope you feel better soon. Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my Mother last year to cancer. If this is interfearing with your daily life then you might consider grief counseling. It can really help. There are some grief counseling groups that are free of charge and you work with a counselor and others who are dealing with grief. I would call a hospice in your area to see if there is a free grief counseling support group in your area. The social worker at the hospice is usually glad to help you, even if your friend didn't use their services.

You might also try volunteering at a hospital or hospice working with others who have Luekemia. Maybe even children. Doing work to help others who are suffering may help you by doing something positive in memory of your friend.

There is no time limit for grief, but if it's making your day to day life difficult it may help to get some assistance. When I think about my Mother I realize she is in a better place and is no longer suffering. It's hard becausee I miss her so much. Really I'm the one who I feel sorry for because I miss her, she however has no more pain and one day we will be together again.

Answer 3

sorry about that
these are life's ups and downs!!!
u have gather urself and take courage!!
there are thousands out their in similar situation!!!
let's move on from here
leave aside the past and think of what best u can do for the future!!!!
all the best and blessings

Answer 4

sorry for your loss. its one of the lifes things we all have to go through. my sister had a hard time when our dad died and was grieving a lot..so i told her that for her to get back on her feet maybe she could help out doing things to raise money for cancer. she did and it gave her something back knowing she took part in trying to fight cancer. you might try something like that.. good luck and god bless

Answer 5

cry yourself out! start thinking of the good times and try not to dwell on her suffering. delayed grief is real and it's OK hope you feel better soon

Answer 6

crying is a chemical adjustment for the mind .... you miss your friend... but remember we all are spirit beings just having a human experience .....