Christians what do u think about molesting?

Question

Ok my step dad molested me when I was younger. I didnt tell anyone until I met my bf and we dated for a while I knew I could trust him and so he was the only one to know. My mom and step dad live in a differnt state then me so the one night I asked my mom is she thiks ppl should be punished for the things they do bad and then I said that my step dad did something and its hard for me to forgive him. She asked what and I said I wouldnt tell her cause she might not believe me and that my step dad had to say what he did so she knew it was true. He did admit to doing it and my mom comforted me that night but after that night things went back to normal and she is still with him and loves him. She and My step dad are Christian and I undertand that ppl make misstakes. She says we need to forgive. But I am so upset and sad about this whole thing. I finaly told her after I wanted to for so long and now I wish I didnt even say anything.

Answer 1

Wow. YOu've been through a lot. Molesting of course is a horrible sin that makes one person's pleasure the only thing that matters (in their minds) not the suffering the victim will endure for years and years, maybe the rest of their lives. There's really nothing you can do about him (it's actually amazing that he confessed), I'd worry about you. I think it's going to take some good (preferably Christian in my mind) counseling to get you through this, like New Life for example. I wish you all the best, what a terrible thing to have gone through.

Answer 2

O my goodness! You need to call the police immediately if your mother is not going to stand by you and file charges against her husband. Or tell your school counselor if you are still in school. The counselor will know exactly what to do.

This should not have happened to you and your mother is an idiot. Yes, it is true that people "make mistakes," but a CRIME has also been committed against you, and if she won't do it, then you yourself must make sure it never happens again to you or anyone else that your stepfather may come in contact with.

You were courageous in telling. Can you be courageous once more and tell the police? Your mother might be mad at first but that's ok. She will get over that much easier than you will get over being molested.

I am a Christian, too, but I would never use that as an excuse to let someone get away with being a child molester.

If you don't want to call the police call the local Department of Family Services - but call someone -- RIGHT NOW!!!

My thoughts are with you.

(With respect to other answerers who advise you to just forgive and forget, NO. After the authorities make sure that this girl is safe and won't be molested again, THEN she can work on the forgiveness aspect. But right now she is not safe, as it has been proven reliably that molesters keep molesting, if not the same child, then other children. So please don't give her advice that will endanger her, as you so ignorantly have done. )

Answer 3

Forgiving is absolutely necessary.

Why should someone's mistake done to me or others, cause me to be bitter and lose God's blessings. I have been taught that not forgiving others keeps you hurt and away from God, and does not keep them in any pain or judgment.

Math 6: MKJV
14 For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you;
15 but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Some may say the use of this scripture in such a manner would mean I am preaching the loss of salvation. No, I am not. Just some of God's blessings are lost. We do not obtain heaven by being sin free (no Catholicism here).

Why let someone who hurt continue to hurt you? Forgive them and let go. Now, there may be times where you forgive and shouldn't forget. If someone physically abused you and you knew he had done so to others and had not changed, and then knew someone who was going there, you should perhaps warn them for their safety. There are times where we must remember someone's actions to protect others. Or perhaps for other reasons, but never for negative purposes.

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Answer 4

What he did was WRONG. I really feel for you and your mother. Nothing can take back those years or the hurt, of the act that he did and your moms reaction, but have peace in knowing that when judgment time comes he will be cast in to that burning lake of fire, Jesus said of the children "whatever you do the the least of them you do to me" so don't worry and go in peace "vengeance is mine so saith the Lord"

God bless and peace unto you.

Answer 5

Christians think molestation is wrong and a sin.
However, Christians believe that Jesus Christ forgives sin.
If your mom and step-dad are truly Christians, your step-dad will repent of (turn away from) his sin and turn to Christ for forgiveness.

If you have Christ as your Savior, He asks that you forgive your step-dad as well.
Not forgiving him hurts you more than it hurts him. It keeps you feeling bad towards him which makes you feel bad most of the time.

Answer 6

Your step dad should apologize. You need to report the abuse by your step dad to the authorities so that he is held accountable for his actions and so that this doens't happen to others. You were probably not the first one or the last.
Your mom puts him before you, she protected and still protects your abuser so she will not be happy!

Answer 7

You are a victim of Domestic Violence and You need Council...those are not descriptions of Christians either and You have been taken advantage of. There could be other victims of this abuse. Romans 13 and Jesus did not like those who abuse children Matthew 18:1-6!

Answer 8

stormchaser, did you just put NAMBLA in with a list of support groups?

NAMBLA= national american men boy love association

A.K.A. full grown men who think it is ok to have sex with little boys.

Answer 9

I'm not a Christian. But I think it's ok for me to molest myself.